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Submitted by overworkedmom on Fri, 10/11/2013 - 8:19pm

My exh is taking me back for reduced cs. He lied to the judge about his up coming deployment so that he scrapes by at the shared custody visitation time so that it drops by $250/month. Anyway, his gf (that was married and still living with her husband when they first got together) is in the same unit. I knew she wouldn't leave her 2 yr old and I have been expecting that she was going to "accidentally" get knocked up any day.

Yep, they called tonight to let me know. Lmao all I could say was "yep, I figured. Congrats. "

Seriously- do less for the kids you have, knock up a skank who you had an affair with- that will show me how you are the dependable father in their lives! grrrrrr.... Ok. Vent over. I know I am going to get slammed for this but I don't care. He is an ass who makes some of the BMs you deal with look like saints.

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Submitted by NCMilGal on Fri, 10/11/2013 - 9:34pm

Not getting slammed by me.

Unless he's junior enlisted, I don't know how he's getting away with $250/month for more than one kid. DH got slammed with $620/month for one child 11 years ago - pay was a LOT lower then, too.

Next step, they'll get married, because the military doesn't care about keeping non-married people together.

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Submitted by Justme54 on Sat, 10/12/2013 - 4:25am

I would think you could prove he lied. Do you have a lawyer or do you go thru a goverment child welfare agent. Is he getting deployed at all or did he lie about the time of deployement?

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Submitted by overworkedmom on Sat, 10/12/2013 - 7:18am

He is lying about going. He leaves in march for 6 months but getting lowered cs based on him getting them for 90 days a year. In the next 12 months it will be closer to 40 days. I am just pissed that he is cheating his kids in the one and only useful thing he does for them. But I should have expected it, he always said that he didn't need my kids, he could always have more. Now he just is trying to get out of taking responsibility for the children he already has.

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Submitted by Justme54 on Sat, 10/12/2013 - 8:21am

It is getting reduce $250 a month for how many months? 90 days vs 40 days does not seem like enough difference to get a reduction. Can you work on just getting a set amount for CS? This would avoid the drama of timing on deployment. However, he said...he did not need YOUR kids...that he could have more. How sad. I am sure when the baby is born, he will work on getting another reduction. Are you remarried? It sounds like the kids could use a good father figure. You EX is a low life for a dad.

I am so sorry for you and the kids. One day at a time. Hang in there. HUGS!

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Submitted by twoviewpoints on Sat, 10/12/2013 - 8:21am

" he always said that he didn't need my kids, he could always have more" :jawdrop:

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Sat, 10/12/2013 - 3:07pm

This is so true.

That woman must be crazy. If he's treating the kids he has like shit, what makes her think he won't treat her baby the same way one day???

He's showing her that he's a shitty father. Instead of increasing the birth control, the dope get's knocked by this loser. :?

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Submitted by Amber Miller on Sun, 10/13/2013 - 1:20am

My ex got away with lying to the court and cherry picking his pay stubs. He was ordered to pay $450 a month for 3 kids. That's not even enough for 1 meal a day. It's approximately $5 per child. What a disgrace. To top it off, he never pays the ordered amount. The last time we got the full amount was in May. We get $70 one month, this past month we got $40. What's the use of having a court order if it's not followed? I called CS and they said he's not in contempt of court because the economy is bad and he just can't find stable employment. He's had 8 jobs so far this year and he never informs CS. He doesn't get fired, he has temper tantrums and quits his jobs. Instead, I need to figure out where he's working and it takes 6 weeks for his wages to be attached. He was just ordered to pay support last year. He sees the kids on average 50 hours a year with no overnight visits. I left him over 8 years ago. He lives 10 minutes away from us and sees the kids once a month for a couple hours. He says he's too busy "working" and he's "so tired from working" and that's why he can't see the kids more often. My question: if you are working all the time then where the hell is the kids support money? You know, their $5 a day to pay for their lunches? If it was up to my ex, the kids would be running around naked wearing loin cloths, eating bugs and leaves while bathing in the local river. Child support: what a joke.