Oh my what a peaceful day just rested and hung out just DH and I,,no Skids drama. It has been 5 days since the disengaging from SSs and already the house is feeling like HOME again. I after 10 years of sacrifices made to recover from messses the skids have gotten DH and I in NOW wooo Hooo I am going to do get my hair cut and colored, and get my workout on,,and my health back.
It is a very sad thing Skids diss their Dad as his life is at a close due to cancer, and all they care about is what they can get as soon as he is gone or sooner. I have been trying so hard to the determate of my own health to be a devoted, loving, and supportive to my step sons and their wives and kids. I guess I was just thinking that we were a family only to discover all they see DH and I as cash machine, supplier of vehicles, nanny and car service, maids, pet sitters all with no thank you or payback, JUST GIMME GIMMIE MORE! I was tired of working sometimes two jobs and seeing these Skids take extravagant vacations, buying designer stuff, and expecting us to take them in and treat them as if they were VIP's at the Ritz Hotel, all the time them throwing hateful remaks and digs if their dad and I bought a new item as small as a used tv or computer.
all the while we were expected to bail them out. The retirement account ran out and our money ran out to the point we were living paycheck to paycheck, maxed out credit cards and that is when DH realized he had not helped SSs by always bailing them out, and he was really hurt when he was even puched in the face by one son when he said that if we drew money out of our retirement account that he'd need to pay it back!! Then another ss broke in our home twice and stole from us when he wanted cash for he and his girlfriend. It had finally soaked in and the
DH realized that these kids are selfish, greedy, and uncaring people and that he can not change.
We are now living for the time we have left. We have put the SSs on notice that they may come visit us and that we love them BUT the bank of Dad is closed!
The SSs have not called or e-mailed since being put on notice that their true intentions and plotting and planning involving Dad and I was exposed.
Through this I have learned you cannot make a family if everyone is not willing to work at it. I also learned that giving kids everything they want makes them appreciate nothing and only become greedy and ruthless to get what they want....notice I said what they want NOT what they need.
I am choosing to surround my DH and myself with those that Love us and are supportive. I love this new peace that is in our home now!!