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Submitted by pastepmomof3 on Wed, 10/13/2010 - 8:18am

I'm debating with myself on what to do and need some input.

A month ago, BM1 send a mass email including DH about her and SD's involvement in a breast cancer walk that is taking place this coming weekend. I wanted to support SD so I put $25 in an envelope and DH gave it to BM1 during SD exchange. No big deal, right?

So fast forward to 2 weekends ago when SD was visiting. I was asking her about her plans since this coming weekend was the breast cancer walk and Homecoming dance. She said she wasn't going to the dance and that she wasn't going to the walk either because she was taking PSATs that morning.

Okay - so here's my dilemna. I gave the money to support SD in this walk, but now that she's not walking, I'm thinking about asking for my money back. I would rather donate that $25 myself directly to the cause rather than through BM so she gets all the credit.

What would you do?

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Submitted by lisa510 on Wed, 10/13/2010 - 8:20am

I don't think you should donate for the recognition. If you're concerned about your money actually going to the fund raiser instead of to BM1's new makeup, ask for a receipt so you can claim the donation on your taxes.

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Submitted by Pantera on Wed, 10/13/2010 - 8:30am

For the future, most of these walks have websites for the walker so you can donate directly to the website. Next time I would do that instead.

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Submitted by PoisonApples on Wed, 10/13/2010 - 8:39am

You'll look petty if you ask for it back.

I agree about the website. That's how I donate to these things. The person participating usually sends out a link.

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Submitted by pastepmomof3 on Wed, 10/13/2010 - 8:48am

I'm familiar with the link as this is how i've donated for these types of causes before. However, this was a quick decision that i may have jumped a little too quickly into.

I will ask for a receipt back proving she actually submitted the donation. I guess it would be different if SD was actually participating because I wouldn't typically give BM1 money for anything like this if it were just her.

Thanks for your advice ladies. Smile Wanted to make sure i was approaching this with a level head.