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Ready to snap...

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I've been off this website for a few months, mostly because of being busy, but also because things have been relatively calm in the stepkids realm. Until this weekend. And let me clarify - it's not the SK - it's the BM. My DD just turned 3 on Tuesday and DH and I decided to throw her a little party with family and close friends since both SD and SS would be here this weekend. No biggie. Everything is going fine until the party when all of the gifts are pulled out. SS's gift was the last one and when DD pulled everything out, they were all stuffed animals wrapped in grocery ads.

Right of First Refusal

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So we had SS8 this weekend and it went pretty well. We picked him up at 6PM on Friday, took him to his boy scouting adventure Saturday, and just chilled out Sunday. His mom called at 4 asking if she could pick him up early because she was nearby and HALLELUJAH, DH said No, he'll be ready at 6. So at 6:10, BM comes to pick up SS. DH knew she was going to be pissy, but in her typical fashion, the calm before the storm we'll say, she acts fine at first until Monday (today) comes up.

Time for Group Therapy...

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Someone had done this a few weeks ago and it worked wonders for me so i thought it was time for another round.

If you could say anything to BM/BD, what would it be?

I'll start.

Why do you think it's appropriate that your stb16 year old spend time with a man you divorced, let alone in another state? Oh yeah, and got her out of school early to do that??

Your stbMIL just died and was buried last week - you don't think we noticed that you were driving her car when you dropped off SD? Gee, that didn't take long.

Come again??

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Okay, so the SK's are officially here this weekend. I'm cool with it - we've been making small talk over the course of the evening, made some pretty good grub and dessert, etc. My BD2 likes to take car rides to go to sleep, so me and kids went for her nightly ride. We must've driven for an hour but the conversations that came out of it, I'm saying Say WHat? Come again?? I can't believe my ears!

Preparing for the worst...

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This past weekend was the first of a 3-weekend-in-a-row with SS8. No worries about it - he's a great kid and very nice and respectful - no problems. This coming weekend we will also have SD15 for her monthly visitation. Again - no major issues with this, she's a typical teenager.

Here are my concerns though that i'm preparing for:

Before 4PM or after 11PM?

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These were the options DH was given by BM#2 about when he could get SS8 next Friday. To give some background, DH has been getting EOW visitation with SS since he was 2. It's always been every other Friday to Sunday, usually dropping off/picking up around 5PM. More background is that DH and I work 2 1/2 hours away from home. Occasionally we are permitted to work from home, and that has worked out the last couple times we had visitation, but next week is not looking to work out that way.

"If Sprite has caffeine in it, i'll be SOOO mad."

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This is what came out of SS8's mouth as we're walking inside. I asked him why he said that and he says "because I get headaches from caffeine." I've heard of this before but in this situation, I believe a lot of this is based on information BM fed him to explain why he gets headaches. At one point, we were ready to send him to a neurologist to explain why he was getting them so much, but then DH and I took him to an optometrist, got him some glasses, and he's been fine. So now i want to say "Really? Gee, that's funny - did you get a headache after eating that chocolate bar?

Tired of Accommodating BM!

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DH got an email from BM#2 wanting to switch weekends because she wants to go on a retreat on a weekend we wouldn't normally get SS. DH replied to her and told her that he was NOT interested in changing weekends, but would take SS that weekend (so we'd have him 3 weekends in a row) so she can go on her retreat. She wants to know why he won't just trade? And is this the precedent from this point forward?

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