Ok it's been a while since I was on here, But I have a lot to Vent. SS7 is suppose to come here every Friday at 6 to Sunday till 6. But his dad works out of town. I've been pretty nice about BM keeping SS for the weekends while DH was gone. But when I had enroled SS in karate, I checked like 6 times with her, when I was thinking about it, when I found a good class, checked the dates with her 2 times, when I was on my way to enrole him, and the day after I ernroled him, to ensure that he would be able to make all the classes. Well he wnet to two classes, then he had to "go out of Town" with BM boyfriends mother. After wards I find out that he was in town, but BM wasn't. We find that out on the long weekend in May. BM had broken down in the states somewhere (this was sunday on the long weekend) (we live in Alberta) So DH says, sucks to be you, I'll keep SS for the week while your out of town. BM says no, my boyfriends mother is coming to look after him. After many arguments about it, and many tears from SS becasue he wanted to stay with us, he had to go back to his mothers. We later find out that she's been gone for 3 weeks. So SS can't come here when DH is gone, but has to say at her house when she's not there? not really understanding that.
Oh and by the way, SS is NOT allowed to refere to DH as DAD at his mother house, or in her presents or on the phone. He is called by his first name, BM boyfriend is "DAD". I think that;s just wrong. SS get caught on his word when talking to her on the phone, because he can't call DH by his frist name in front of me or DH, becuase we think that's totally direspectful.
In a couple weeks is SS birthday, DH called to find out what the plan was, because DH was never had SS on his brithday, and it falls on a friday this year. BM stated that she has made plans at a local enteratiment hall for SS on the staruday, and very clearly stated that DH is to drop him off and is NOT invited to SS birthday party. And aswell that I am not welcome nor BD14 month. So what are we suppose to tell SS when we go to the place and say have a nice birthday, see you when it's over?
DH tried talking to BM about this kind of stuff, that she's just screwing her slef for later on, and not even that much later on. That SS should be able to spend time with both his parents at the same time on special times like his birthday. She doesn't conisder DH as SS parent, just a babysitter, when it's convent for her.
Well thanks all for listening to me.