I hate to say it, but I told you so.....
Yesterday FH went to meet SD10 for a walk, it was not his weekend but she wanted to see him.
When he came back home, he was kinda sad.SD smelled really bad, had dirty finger nails,yellow teeth, greasy as heck hair, dirty smelly clothes, he said he was so disgusted he did not even want her to get into the car for the ride over to the park. She has been cursing a whole lot again too.
When asked she said she did not bathe or brush teeth in a whole week!
When she lived with us, I had to really get on her to take showers, but I was always the mean one...
I think his eyes were opened yesterday.
I did not feel vindicated or anything, I just felt sorry for him, he was really beside himself.
We talked some about it, since disengaging I quit talking to him about problems w/his kids, because he belittled my advice.
This conversation brought us a bit closer again, we went out for dinner, something we have not done in months.
It turned out to be a very nice evening, maybe not all is lost after all.
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If it was me, I would have
If it was me, I would have been to embarassed, I would have kept my mouth shut lol but he spilled it all....
Sounds like she needs some
Sounds like she needs some strong parenting from someone. How sad that she doesn't see that her hygiene affects her life beyond the obvious.
I am convinced that there is a common thread with SK's and hygiene. When I came on board DH wasn't enforcing anything with showers etc. Now, he has SS take a shower every night. As for brushing his hair, it never happens if we don't say something. He wants his hair long, but won't brush it.
this sounds EXACTLY like my
this sounds EXACTLY like my ss15. drives me up the freeking wall!!! ss15 did shower on Wednesday night, but he came out wearing a nice collared shirt and nice jeans. i asked ss15 if he had a date because he looked nice. he said no, he wanted to get his clothes "comfy" to wear tomorrow. i looked at DH who was oblivious to anythign the skid had said. later in the kitchen i told DH to tell him to change so his clothes for TOMORROW'S FAMILY MEAL aren't dirty, dhs' response - i'm too uptight.
the kid slept in the clothes because they were wrinkly and looked like shit, good way to go to the family meal. the grandparents in the mean time had seen the kid wearing these clothes because he went with his brother ss17 to go say hi and let the grandparents know they made it safely....
we walked in the door and mil looked at him and then at me - all i could say is he's not my kid. i knew exactly what she was thinking!
it's because neither parent
it's because neither parent wants to be the bad parent by picking on their child....to most people this is called parenting and feelings don't matter when you're teaching them what's acceptable!
my sister and i had this conversation this weekend...our dad would call us out if we were being lazy on the weekends and hadn't showered by the time he got home. when we'd hear his truck pull up and if we hadn't done it yet - it was a race to the bathrooms to get showered.
This borders on neglect, but
This borders on neglect, but what the heck to we know, we are only uptight Steps }:)