Boyfriend's ex has refused to allow him access to his children since early march when she lost a court case where she was trying to get more money.

She doesn't say it's about money, she gave no reason until a late March when boyfriend wrote and asked her what the problem was. She replied with a list of requirements he had to meet to regain access (ludicrous ones) and then said that she would 'perhaps' restore access on some level after he met her conditions but access would have to work around the girls (age 7 and 5) schedules for activities and parties. She then went on to rant about how important parties are 'for their development'.

Last weekend was our daughter's 3rd birthday. Ex had backed herself into a corner because surely if parties are so important she wouldn't want them to miss their own sister's party? right?

Well, we sent an invitation to the party which she didn't even tell the children about. Boyfriend then dropped another invitation to the babysitters. 2 days before the party boyfriend asked ex 3 times (email and text) if she was going to let them go. Finally, the day before she said they could go 'for a little while' but SHE would be there too!

Now this woman has been bitch from hell from day one. She has hit me in the past. Her only interaction with our daughter was to stick her finger in her face and scream at her one week past her 2nd birthday because she had bitten the 5 year old (didn't break the skin, 5 year old had bullied her all weekend). She sent emails and screamed at us demanding to know what the 'punishment' for our 2 year old would be (she was holding the 5 year old in her arms at the time). She went on and on about her right to know what 'consequences' our 2 year old would face for biting the precious 5 year old. Now I don't condone biting in any way but that was the ONLY time our child ever bit anyone and god was she provoked!

So, suffice it to say that there was NO WAY this bitch was coming to our child's birthday party. Boyfriend sent her several texts telling her she was NOT welcome and asking her to just drop the kids with us and pick them up later - even though it was his weekend to have them anyway. She refused and insisted that they could not come unless she was there too.

Finally, the night before I sent her an email and told her that she was not welcome and that if she showed up I'd call the police and file charges of harassment. Of course she used this as her excuse not to let them come, who knows what lies she told them about it. She forwarded my email to my boyfriend and told him that she had planned to bring them until she got this 'threatening' email from me but now she didn't feel that she could let them come at all. Right, like she ever really planned on letting them come anyway. She would have shown up, immediately caused a scene, picked the up in a self-righteous huff and stomped out.

Thing is, my boyfriend can tell her the same things - that she's not welcome and she just ignores him as if he said nothing. She blames ME for everything. He can tell her 20 times that she's a crap mother over some thing or another and she'll act like he never said a word. If I say the EXACT same thing she gets all irate. I suppose she's in denial that he sees her for what she really is and prefers to believe that it's all me.

To hear her tell it she's always the victim though. She constantly starts crap with us and then pretends that she's being so picked on.

So last week she requested through her lawyer that they meet with their lawyers to discuss restoring access. That's a normal process here, each party goes to a separate room with their lawyers and the lawyers meet in between to hammer out a deal. My boyfriend agreed to meet even though he was not willing to negotiate at all for what he's already been awarded by the court. As soon as he agreed she said she'd only meet if it was a face to face meeting, everyone around one table. My boyfriend's lawyer said 'hell no' - it just isn't done that way here. It's just more proof that she refuses to hear my boyfriend when he tells her he thinks she's crap and she still thinks that if she can get him alone for a few minutes he'll come running back to her.

I just needed to rant I guess