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Submitted by porcelian-doll on Fri, 07/19/2013 - 4:27pm

My MIL is visiting. I am not enthusiastic about this in the slightest. Despite the fact that she knows I am albino she buys me sunscreen. She is always petting my head and rubbing my hair. The way she says my name in that shrill voice I can't take it. Its not that she is a horrible person or anything its that her presents makes me uncomfortable.

I don't like her offering her opinion when no one is asking. I really don't appreciate her hovering over me in the kitchen and telling me how to cook. She treats SD like an angle "Oh come here sweetie". If she is around and SD insults me she will blame on her just being a young girl. DH acts like he is a little boy whenever she is around. I am just counting the seconds until she leaves with a big phony grin on my face while gritting my teeth. I just get the heeby jeebes the way she likes to lift my shirt to rub my stomach and talk to my baby. And her hands are always so cold.

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Submitted by realitycheckmom on Fri, 07/19/2013 - 4:39pm

Would you like to come visit me until she leaves? I promise no sunscreen, screeching or lifting of shirts.

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Submitted by twopines on Fri, 07/19/2013 - 4:49pm

She should be very grateful she's not my MIL. She'd be fleeing my home in a hot mess of tears after I got done with her.

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Submitted by Tuff Noogies on Fri, 07/19/2013 - 4:49pm

woooowwww... u poor thing!!! u could just, um, feel ill most of the time she's there!

she sounds like she's got nice intentions, but i'm with you, it would irritate the every loving SHIT out of me!!!

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Fri, 07/19/2013 - 4:53pm

Isn't there a rule that you can't touch a pregnant woman's belly unless invited?

I see people do this all of the time, and you can see the pregnant women look as though they'd like to shove those people into traffic.

No touchy dammit!

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Submitted by Aeron on Fri, 07/19/2013 - 5:04pm

Don't we wish... Rule? He'll no, a pregnant belly is the same thing as having "Public Property" tattooed across your frigging forehead.

But they usually back off when you grab their boob or their junk in return. }:) Jerks.

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Fri, 07/19/2013 - 5:09pm

I would have liked to have seen that!

My parents belong to a Pentecostal church. One of the members was someone who attended the same HS as me. Towards the end of my first marriage (abusive dickhead asshole), she came into their business (I worked for them) and saw me. The first thing out of her mouth was "Why aren't you pregnant yet? You've been married forever. Let me lay hands on you and pray a baby into that belly!"

I was PISSED. First...it was no secret that I didn't want kids. Second....was she f**king kidding me?

I grabbed her wrists and dug my nails into her skin, while telling her in no uncertain terms how out of line she was and that she had no business touching me, judging me or praying for something I DID NOT WANT!!

She never came near me again after that.

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Submitted by Aeron on Fri, 07/19/2013 - 5:20pm

Good for you. It never ceases to amaze me how some people feel so comfortable with saying or asking such personal things of someone they hardly know.

And for some reason when you're pregnant, it's like you're the biggest biatch in the world if you don't just love everyone you see touching you. Sorry, I like my personal space. I don't overly enjoy the touchy feely nonsense from family when I'm Not pregnant. So to have total strangers, particularly strange men that I've never seen before try to go for the belly.... yea that isn't happening in my world. And it's only fair. You touch me, I touch you. And since I don't like where your hand is, you can be damn sure you're not going to like where my goes!

I'm good with them looking at me like I've lost my mind. Apparently being pregnant gives me an excuse for losing it. They can never tell me what their excuse is for being so damn rude.

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Submitted by twoviewpoints on Fri, 07/19/2013 - 5:45pm

Ok, I'm bad. I laughed when I read this. Not that it's really funny, but all I could picture was one of those old fashioned crazy aunt people seen in old tv shows and movies. Always pinching cheeks and all but smothering who ever they were hugging on.

I doubt she means to offend or upset you, but you must be a very self controlled strong lady not to have had smacked her out of surprise/shock. She rubbed your tummy? DH owes you big time for hostessing his mother this visit instead of pitching her out the door in a fit of rage.

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Submitted by porcelian-doll on Fri, 07/19/2013 - 8:26pm

Oh I'm sorry I meant tanning lotion not sunscreen she gave me both. I just got back from going to church with her yaaaay because she was ever so nice to find a church in my area that worships at nighttime so that I could get prayer for my baby. I'm so tired and annoyed and DH wants her to spend the night because his mom shouldn't have to stay in a hotel. If she is here tomorrow I might have to go to a hotel or sty in bed sick all day.

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Submitted by porcelian-doll on Fri, 07/19/2013 - 8:26pm

Oh I'm sorry I meant tanning lotion not sunscreen she gave me both. I just got back from going to church with her yaaaay because she was ever so nice to find a church in my area that worships at nighttime so that I could get prayer for my baby. I'm so tired and annoyed and DH wants her to spend the night because his mom shouldn't have to stay in a hotel. If she is here tomorrow I might have to go to a hotel or sty in bed sick all day.