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Why do skid accomplishments irritate me???

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Submitted by PrincessFiona on Wed, 05/30/2012 - 8:30am

So SD14's school did an end of the year awards ceremony. She got several academic awards. That's is great. She is smart. I recognize that. I'm happy she is. I'm sure her parents are proud of her and happy they don't have that particular struggle to deal with. But it irritates me to hear about it.

Could it be because she doesn't have to put any effort into to? School comes very easy to her and she gets great grades without any effort.

Could it be because for someone so smart she has zero social intelligence? How can she not know she is being rude when she ignores people, sulks in a corner, hides away from human interaction.

Could it be because my tolerance level for hearing SD praise is full? Really BM gushes constantly about how great, smart, pretty, athletic, mature SD is. I get tired of hearing it. There is so much focus on her being 'perfect'. Hell, there is constant focus on HER in general. The world revolves around her.

Could it be because her parents choose to only focus and talk and praise the good things she does and sweep anything bad under the rug? Really this school year alone she has been caught in two serious situations that should have been punished heavily however were lightly handled. And that doesn't even account for the way she treats me and now BM's new man. Total disrespect. But all that is ignored.

So I will practice my disengaging and nod and smile...................

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Submitted by Unbreakable on Wed, 05/30/2012 - 9:17am

Her accomplishment annoy you because she annoys you, and not to mention no one cares that she's rude. I know this story all to well. Last week SD14 had an award ceremony and didn't receive a thing. The only thing she accomplished was wasting my damn time. The disengaging nod and smile sounds like a great idea. I'll have to use that as well Smile

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Submitted by 12yrstepmonster on Wed, 05/30/2012 - 9:28am

I completely understand your feelings!

I think I felt that way because it was used as an reason to allow her to do things. She does good in school you should be willing to drive her back and forth to skidtown on your weekends for her to hang out with her friends she does good in school why are you pushing her to CP this or that

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Submitted by lilsadone on Wed, 05/30/2012 - 9:41am

I get this. I can only say that it annoys ME because SO tries to hide all the negative or ignore it like it doesn't exist/isn't an issue - and then is super vocal about any little thing good she does. If I equally heard both, the accomplishments wouldn't get on my nerves. Maybe you feel the same sometimes?

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Submitted by PrincessFiona on Wed, 05/30/2012 - 10:16am

I think this is the biggest reason for my annoyance. If we could equally acknowledge her strenths and weaknesses we would be dealing with reality, but all we ever talk about are the positive things.

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Submitted by Auberry2 on Wed, 05/30/2012 - 10:17am

I know how you feel. I am always hearing about how smart SS5 is, how fast he learns, how well he reads, how well he colors his pictures, etc, but if I say something about bio-son's accomplishments then it is just, "oh, that's nice". SS5 is socially and behaviorally below his age, but that's ok because he is smart. He is smart, by the way, extremely so, but what good it will do him without good behavior and social skills I don't know.

I think part of is that, no matter what how well intentioned FDH and I are, neither of us can get super excited about the accomplishments of the other's child because, well, they aren't our kid.