Ha, I copied this and emailed it to myself the first time I saw it!
1. Does your man allow co-sleeping with his children? (aka the kiddies routinely jump into bed with him at night)
2. Does he have to lie down with them to get them to sleep?
3. Do the children seem somehow "stunted" socially? Do they have poor hygiene habits, eating habits, bedtime habits?
4. Does your man subscribe to the "one big happy family" model? (expects you to love his children as much as or more than him)
5. Does your man have the "inability" to say no to his children?
6. Do his children seem overly "hyperactive" to you?
7. Does your man say "just relax; you worry too much" or "Everything will be just fine" if you bring up a legitimate concern
8. Do the children seem "overly needy" demanding that dad spend 24/7 with them? Do they physically lay all over him and go bonkers when daddy steps out of their peripheral vision?
9. Are they unable to do age appropriate tasks or want dad to do things that could easily be done themselves?
10. Does dad seem overprotective of his children; unwilling to let them try things out on their own?
11. Has dad said things like "I don't want to make waves with the BM b/c it will affect the children" or "we'll take the high road" when faced with blatant BM stepping over boundaries.
12. Has dad said things to you like "you don't like my children" or "you're a child hater" or "my children are afraid of you" or "my children don't like you?" This is code for you are able to see through the manipulation and the children don't like it. . . and frankly he doesn't like the fact that you can see through his children's manipulation either. He'd rather look the other way as opposed to actually parenting because he might "lose" his children to the (almost always) PASinator BM.
I can sadly answer yes to 2,3,5 and 6. If H ever called my by twat waffle's name I would thunder punch him in the throat and then throw him out of the house. But he's too clever for that. Instead he calls me sickeningly sweet nicknames like "sweetheart" or "love" so as not to make that mistake. Some days I'd like to kick him so hard his balls would affix themselves to his chin permanently.
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Ha, I copied this and emailed
Ha, I copied this and emailed it to myself the first time I saw it!
1. Does your man allow co-sleeping with his children? (aka the kiddies routinely jump into bed with him at night)
2. Does he have to lie down with them to get them to sleep?
3. Do the children seem somehow "stunted" socially? Do they have poor hygiene habits, eating habits, bedtime habits?
4. Does your man subscribe to the "one big happy family" model? (expects you to love his children as much as or more than him)
5. Does your man have the "inability" to say no to his children?
6. Do his children seem overly "hyperactive" to you?
7. Does your man say "just relax; you worry too much" or "Everything will be just fine" if you bring up a legitimate concern
8. Do the children seem "overly needy" demanding that dad spend 24/7 with them? Do they physically lay all over him and go bonkers when daddy steps out of their peripheral vision?
9. Are they unable to do age appropriate tasks or want dad to do things that could easily be done themselves?
10. Does dad seem overprotective of his children; unwilling to let them try things out on their own?
11. Has dad said things like "I don't want to make waves with the BM b/c it will affect the children" or "we'll take the high road" when faced with blatant BM stepping over boundaries.
12. Has dad said things to you like "you don't like my children" or "you're a child hater" or "my children are afraid of you" or "my children don't like you?" This is code for you are able to see through the manipulation and the children don't like it. . . and frankly he doesn't like the fact that you can see through his children's manipulation either. He'd rather look the other way as opposed to actually parenting because he might "lose" his children to the (almost always) PASinator BM.
Bless you, Darkstar! And
Bless you, Darkstar! And thanks!
Good list!
Good list!
There should only be the ONE
There should only be the ONE red flag.
And that red flag is that the man has kids. lol
Tru dat!
Tru dat!
Hell yes.
Hell yes.
Nailed it.
Nailed it.
truth.
truth.
I can sadly answer yes to
I can sadly answer yes to 2,3,5 and 6. If H ever called my by twat waffle's name I would thunder punch him in the throat and then throw him out of the house. But he's too clever for that. Instead he calls me sickeningly sweet nicknames like "sweetheart" or "love" so as not to make that mistake. Some days I'd like to kick him so hard his balls would affix themselves to his chin permanently.
"Dad is involved to the point
"Dad is involved to the point of seeming to get all needs except sexual, met by his kids. "
:sick: Ewwww! You have my sympathies.
Great list! I had red flags
Great list!
I had red flags #3, 7, 9, 11, and 12.
Wish I had seen this earlier, lol.