I am going to be BRUTALY HONEST with you
NO SUGAR COATING

What the F is wrong with you.
You are pregnant , the ONLY concern right now should be what is best for YOUR CHILD.
Time to have a sit down with your Dh,
ask him what is more important the health of your unborn child or if his mother house is clean. I don't see a problem with you spending time with her , while she is alone . But she could have come over to your house. If she doesn't drive your dh could have picked her up.
You can NOT put anybody before your unborn child, PERIOD.
This is how it starts , he doesn't even care that you are pregnant soon it will get worse.
Time for you to stand up, Done let him treat you this way, guiled trip you into believing you are a bad person.

From now on, do what is best for YOU and YOUR CHILD.

I know that was harsh but it comes from love, i want the best for you and your child.

You've got to stick up for yourself. If you fall into this now it will get worse for you and your babies later. At 6mths pg I could clean my house (not twins!) but didn't always! It was my excuse to rest! And I didn't have any complications. Had I had complications there would be NO way I'd over exert myself and clean my house, let alone someone else's! Put your foot down, tell dh that was a one time occurence and next time he can hire her a maid or go back with his ex. If you have had complications too, what has your dr said about exercise and stuff? I'd take it easy if I were you.

You poor thing- your DH sounds like he's being a jerk, though, sorry. I agree with some of the other folks that if you don't set the tone now, you're screwed later down the road. If he's not pampering you now during pregnancy, especially with complications and twins, then when? And to ask you to clean and sleep over on the couch in your condition? Oh, Hell no!

If my FH EVER, EVER, EVER, used any line comparing me to his ex - or telling me what she did or didn't do I'd be out the door! NO ONE deserves that! You need to set him straight!

I agree with everyone else here. I would have walked out right then and there on my dh! He would have been on the hunt for me! I would never ever put up with that. I would have told him that we are done if that is all he thinks of me as! i walked out on my ex and I walked out on my dh 2 times! Dh has shaped up and wised up, we haven;t had a problem since.

Next time this happens, smile. Waddle into your local grocery mart and buy a package of Mr Clean magic erasers. Go to your MILs house, head to the bathroom. Use the Mr Clean magic eraser to remove every speck of paint from the drywall in the bathroom. If you have any energy left, use it to remove the varnish from anything wooden, and maybe to ruin her finish in her sink and tub.

Be sure and wear a glove. Those things can leave a nasty rash.

Before you leave, let her know how glad you are that you could help and how much you enjoy being of service.

Hell will freeze over before she asks you to do another thing for her.

If your DH wants his mother's house cleaned then he should get his ass over there to clean it or he should find and pay for a cleaner.

Expecting you to do it is not on.

Oh wow! PLEASE don't let this get started! I still remember plain as day being on my hands and knees 8 months pregnant and so sick I was still taking medication for my Hyperemesis (I was getting IVs until 5 months) and cleaning the bathtub out after SS17 took a shower so that I could give my BS4 a bath! I had not only got H to agree that SS completing these types of chores (cleaning up after himself AND sharing in household chores) was a REQUIREMENT for allowing SS to come and live in MY home FT, but I had made a list of those chores and displayed them on the refrigerator for everyone to see - yet AFTER SS came, H NEVER enforced these chores, rules or any discipline or consequences on SS and literally told me he thought they were "not important" and that he "wouldn't" enforce them for that reason! (And he wonders why I couldn't wait for SS to turn 18 and leave, and why even over a year later I haven't missed SS for one second and why I'd sooner divorce him than let SD live in MY home?!)

Let me tell you, I am STILL very resentful about this as part of MANY incidents that have led to me downloading forms to file for a divorce from H just this morning! However, I am mostly mad at MYSELF for ALLOWING H to treat me this way!

PLEASE stand your ground and put your foot down NOW or risk ending up like me - looking at my BS1 as the ONLY "GOOD" thing that came out of my entire marriage!

Seriously???

Do you have stepkids? Is he paying Child Support for them?

Ask him if he wants to pay child support for two MORE kids because that's the way he's headed!

Why should you have to go over there? It's his mother, he should go and take SS with him and they can clean the house together, then they should come home and clean your house too.

Please don't ever feel that you are obligated to do something like that, in your condition or otherwise.