WOOHOO!!! I Just found the answer I'd been looking for! So happy!
I have been wondering weather bm would win when she tries to take dh back to court to make him pay for college expenses for the boys. It is not a matter of if but when. Bm is money grubby and has made it very clear she will stop at nothing to get as much money from us as she can. She tried to put it in the papers that dh has to pay half of all college for each child but dh said no and was very adamant about not having it in there, this was among a lot of other crap she wanted dh to pay for which was way more than he was making. So anyway I wanted to know when she took him back (which would probably be when ss14 is in his last year of HS)if she could win. She doesn;t want to lose her CS b/c that would mean she has to get a job!
So I looked it up and had been searching for the answer and I finally found it that she will NOT win in the state of AR!
Now I'm not saying that dh won't help his kids with college but we both feel that all the kids should be responsible for their own education and EARN it themselves. A sense of accomplishment ya know? Dh and I both feel that his kids have a since of entitlement and is lazy and expects the world to just give to them when they want something. It will be VERY good for them to learn what it is like to EARN something.
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Oh that's awesome
Oh that's awesome purpledaisies! Score one for you!
Very Awesome! I've wondered
Very Awesome! I've wondered that myself. SSs are only 10 and 5 now but I asked DH if something was in the orders about college and such. He just assumed it stopped when they were 18 but its possible she can make him continue to pay CS through college... We have time but good to have something solid.
In your state disneymom78
In your state disneymom78 here is the law for child supporting stopping -
Alaska when child turns 18, or 19 if child enrolled in high school or equivalent and is residing with custodial parent
Yeah I'm very glad for this.
Yeah I'm very glad for this. I mean I know she can file anything but will she win? Nope not in AR she won;t and even if it was in the papers it wouldn't be enforceable, I just found a case where a father won with the argument that it is unfair to make him pay just b/c he divorced their mom if married couples were not forced to pay for college for their kids. I agree it is not fair, I mean why would a legal adult have someone forced to pay for anything for them. It's not like I can sue my parents and make them pay any of my bills.
Nice!
Nice!
The trick to this is, don't
The trick to this is, don't agree to ANYTHING in mediation that is not a law in your state.
If DH had agreed to pay for college in his divorce agreement, it would be enforceable, since
he would have willingly agreed and it would be a court order.
Thank God he didn't agree to it, and our state does not have a law regarding paying for college. We are 18 and DONE!!
I need to do some research on
I need to do some research on this. Our BM has flat out told DH that she wants to make our lives as miserable as she can and get as much money out of DH as she can...
That's what my bm said too.
That's what my bm said too. Are they lovely? :sick:
Only if your idea of lovely
Only if your idea of lovely is a vindictive, bitter, resentful tramp...
Yep that's what I meant! Lets
Yep that's what I meant! Lets just say my bm will be arrested if she calls the police, Child support, or CPS on us one more time.
Yes,in Florida too it's not a
Yes,in Florida too it's not a requirement. My sister filed for divorce years ago (while in FL) & she was awarded continued child support(CS) should either of her 2-sons desire to go to college. One son has graduated & dabbled in college for a few months & now he's just doing nothing with his life. However, the youngest son graduates from HS next year & he's going to college to become a pharmacist. So, support will continue, however, my ex-bro-n-law has continued to pay the full amount for both sons (although the eldest son has a job & refuses to go to college). Okay, I've said all this to say that was in the case of a divorce agreement. Now in my DH's CS case (filed in FL), CS for his BS will cease upon his son's 18th birthday (whether he goes to college or not). He was not married to his son's mom & he was the petitioner in his CS case. Also, the court stipulated several other factors that CS will cease for BS should they occur. So, I guess there are different guidelines that the State of FL adheres to depending on the marital status of the petitioner. When my DH picked up the CS paperwork in the courts, the first question they asked "Were you married to the child's mother?" and he looked confused & then they told him that they must ask b/c it involves a different preparation of paperwork for ex-spouses & significant others. So, for the State of FL (in my DH's case) CS will not continue if the child goes to college.
I agree with you about a young adult providing for themselves. They are no longer a child & can make of their life as they desire to. My father (though still married to my mother) paid for my associates degree but as for my bachelors & masters degree, Uncle Sam provided me a student loan to make it happen. So, if his kids are serious about what they want (in terms of career choice) they will make it happen on their own.
Sorry so long!
I agree, I paid for college
I agree, I paid for college on my own with 2 kids. It NEVER occurred to me that my parents or anyone else should foot the bill for it. Even IF I didn't have any kids I never would have thought someone else should pay for my college. Of course my parents helped as much as they could, they bought me books and supplies sometimes but as far as anything else why should they? I mean I was an adult and was living on my own like ALL 18 yrs olds should.
YAY!!! I keep telling FDH
YAY!!! I keep telling FDH "It's called a student loan, I got one they can too"!!!!!