Do you ever regret marrying husband bc of step children?
I love husband dearly. He's really fun to be around. But sometimes, maybe 2x a year a wonder how my life would have been had I not married him since he has a daughter. I have even thought of divorcing him because his daughter is sooo annoying. She don't wanna share anything but expects everyone to share everything with her. She will turn to Nickelodeon and hide the remote so thaat no one else can change the channel. She always expects dad to buy her gifts every other weekend (I put a stop to that). She interrupt when dad is talking to anyone else but her. She started her period and soiled her underwear at my house...she didn't even tell me or my 17 yr old daughter that she needed a pad. Sometimes I just wonder if i made a mistake.......((sigh))
It's like I LOVE it when she's not there and dread the holidays because she will be be there an extra day or two. I find myself having an EXTRA large martini before she gets to the house just so I can tolerate her. I am tired of telling her to chew with her mouth closed and to sit with her legs closed. I am tired of her eating the last of everything. I was raised to ask if someone would like to share the last hot dog or whatever it is before just eating it.
I am a really great cook (pat on own back,lol) and I am tired of cooking these really nice meals for everyone and everyone is enjoying it and she says she wants to have oodles of noodles...wtf is an "oodle" anyway. I am tired of her eating the last pieces of candy in the candy jar...duhh it's for everyone not just you. I am tired of her complaining that the steak ordered from Outback steakhouse was too small. Is the $14.95 steak NOT good enough for you!!
sheesh....anyways I think I am done for the day.... 
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they're such sweet little
they're such sweet little things aren't they??? I've learned that only so much can be done to make them better, but they're never goign to be the way you want them to be so enjoy the time that it's just you and DH.
Ah, the good old days. I only
Ah, the good old days. I only say this because SD now lives with BM and has not set foot in our house since, gosh, February?
But I had the same problems with her. I would make meatloaf (shout out to Crayon) and SD would pitch a fit and complain I ONLY made it because I knew she would be there. DH and I and both our BDs love meatloaf, but yes, it's all about SD.
I can't tell you the number of soiled pairs of panties I have found in her room since I started cleaning out. They are shoved everywhere. I have been packing her stuff up, and I started including the soiled panties. She must want to keep them, otherwise she wouldn't be stashing them all over her room, right?
SD and I had several big go-arounds about the TV. Sometimes I would remove the remot from the house. When I would finally get a chance to sit down in MY living room at 9 pm at night for the first time all day, I would want to watch some TV. But SD would be lounging ALL over my couch. I would have to sit on the floor. And boy you should have seen the fur fly when I had the unmitigated gall to ask her for the remote. This is a kid who got home from school at 3 and parked herself on the couch from then until midnight (or whenever she went to bed). We had another TV downstairs and SD actually had the nerve to tell DH that if I wanted to watch TV and she was using the living room TV, I, the person who pays the bills, should go to the basement. I DON'T THINK SO!
I could go on and on, but I think you can see that I feel your pain. I persevered because I do love my husband. We have been married 9 years now and have two beautiful daughters, but there were many times I despaired of us making it this far.
Ah yes, you feel my
Ah yes, you feel my pain..sinvce you said you put soiled undies in her bag i will say that I wiped all fo her crumbs she made on table and swept them rigfht into her bag to take home. I'd figure she must really want them..haha. You are right, to enjoy the time DH and I have together.
Oh yes, whenever she is here.
Oh yes, whenever she is here. It's down to 1 weekend a month now, BM has convinced her that we're horrible people (especially me).
"I love the man but hate the
"I love the man but hate the life he brings with him."
Exactly. We are sooooo good when the skadults are not with us. But, when they show up, it's a different relationship all together. And, these are not even overnight visits -- just 2 or 3 hours! I can't believe he doesn't see the mess he and his ex made (YES, I blame him for a good share of it, too!).
In retrospect, I don't honestly know if I would have done this knowing what I know now.
THAT IS AWESOME!!!
THAT IS AWESOME!!!
in my own selfish way, i
in my own selfish way, i don't regret marrying dh, i just love him to pieces... but it the same time i HATE his baggage!
I think about my old life
I think about my old life often... where is was just me and my son...life was much more simple and laid back... but I do love my DH..and I love our daughter too! Couldn't imagine my life without either of them.
I have said this before.. I
I have said this before.. I would have not married him knowing what I know now; I would have kept my house and dated him.
Oh! The dinner thing!! I simply love to cook. I like shopping for the freshest ingredients and trying different recipes. I love the whole ceremony of cooking. DH and his brood---boring!! I gave up. I cook what I cook... I am not limiting my children's exposure to different foods.
Precious, whose middle name should be fromage, has lived her whole life on Mac-N-Cheese, grilled cheese, and quesadillas, had the audacity after 8 yrs of mine cooking, to ask if the often-served homemade Mac-N-Cheese was lactose-free since she is lactose intolerant. (She is intolerant and intolerable, but not of lactose..good grief!!)My reply... No, like always, it was made with buttermilk. I used to only serve fish when she wasn't home because she doesn't like fish... After that asinine remark... I made fish on her week. What did she have? A grilled cheese sandwich!!
I don't regret marrying him
I don't regret marrying him at all. I regret that he didn't marry me FIRST. If he had, none of this would have ever happened, and I'd have 3 less harpies to deal with. Well, 2 less harpies. BM3 is actually a sweetie, just not to be married to.
Well I am not married to FDH
Well I am not married to FDH yet eventhough we've been together for 5 years while I wait for my divorce to happen. But I am on permanent tranquilisers when SS14 is here, which is permanently! He does go to his BM every school holiday and then I relax on the tranquilisers and don't get stressed if they run out...! Just as long as I refill the subscription BEFORE he returns (which is tomorrow!) It's sad I know, but that kid just rubs me up the wrong way continuously and when he and BD11 are together in one house it is just chaos. They fight continuously. BD11 is smarter than SS14 who plays on being "dumb" so everyone feels sorry for him...UGHHH!
I have also thought about not marrying FDH and thought about how less complicated it would be if we lived separately, but I then think about how lonely I would be without him and then I resign myself to my situation. He says if we were not together SS14 would have to live with BM. Which says alot about how I am the babysitter/maid/rent-a-mom in this situation, hey!
MG