I met with my therapist last night and we got to talking about what I should be focusing on and goal orientated towards now. My next goal would be for dh and I to move back in together but not right away. She wants me to invite dh to my therapy session next week and see where his head is at and what his goals are. If we have the same goals she is going to refer us to a marriage counselor and I will check in with her as needed. If his goals aren't the same then she will refer us to said marriage counselor but continue to see me twice monthly instead of weekly. She wants to be sure I have the extra support I may need. I am really praying that dh will want to live together but I don't know how his kids will feel. I was pretty hateful to his son but that was my ppd and not my normal behavior, I know it will be held against me but to be honest I am resentful (a bit) towards dh for leaving when I needed him the most. We will have to work on those during marriage counseling. My therapist also suggested that I be done having kids and I agree. I am going to talk about dh getting the big V, before any intimacy is restored. My biggest concern here is bm. Dh and I have resumed dating and seem to be on the same page. Bm was pretty upset about my issues towards ss and dh I am sure never stood up for me since he was so quick to leave. If he texted or emailed I wonder if she can use that in court and if the judge would see it was ppd and not me? Does anyone have experiences with that?