This really has nothing to do with my being a SM or my relationship with my SD. I just feel like I am in a "damned if I do, damned if I don't" situation and I have felt like this for a long time. About 3 years ago my DH talked me into going back to school. I will be done by Christmas of this year. I have worked my ass off being a stay-at-home mother to my two small children, taking care of our house, making sure the pantry and fridge are always full, making sure everyone has clean clothes to wear, running everyone in this family all over the place, all while doing everything I can to keep a 3.0 or higher GPA. This is no easy feat, but I think my DH thinks it is a piece of cake. He has a very stressful job and gets no recognition for all the hard work he does (sounds familiar), and he gets really irritated when he feels like he isn't at the top of my priority list. How do you decide what goes at the top when you are trying to decide between hubby, kids, school, etc.? DH basically just stood in our kitchen and told me that he is tired of him and his daughter get the scraps of what is left over after I am done taking care of my kids and doing my school work and getting on the computer. I didn't really know what to say to that. What am I supposed to do? Let my kids fall by the wayside, fail my classes and not worry about so I can focus every bit of my attention and energy on him? I am so frustrated and I don't know what to do. I suggested maybe we should go to couseling together, but he totally shot that down with "we can barely fit all we already do into our day, where are we going to find the time to fit that in?" I am beginning to feel like I never should have gone back to school. Everything was great until I did that. I am so close to being done now that I am not going to quit, but all I can think now is that this had better damn well be worth it in the end because right now I fear we are on our way towards a divorce if things don't get better. I'm so sick of sitting up at night when I am supposed to be doing homework and instead I am crying my eyes out and worrying about what I should do to fix everything. I just want to give up. Right now, the only things that are keeping me from doing that are my babies. They are the world to me and I can't bear the thought of not having them with me. I feel overwhelmed, underappreciated, and trapped.