So annoyed...

All I can say is...GRRRRR!! My SD annoys the shit out of me!!! She is in trouble at school, again, for hitting a kid because he wouldn't leave her alone. Really? Hitting him was absolutely necessary? WTH! She has detention for it tomorrow after school. I am just finding all of this out, but apparently DH knew about it the day it happened, over a week ago. He is really acting like it is no big deal, but this is not the first time she has physically acted out at someone. I am so sick of DH enabling her to act the way she does. He tells me he is sick of it, but treats her like it was no big deal. I am so ready to be done with parenting her! I know that sounds awful, but that's how I feel. She never learns. She has had detention for this kind of thing before, she has been arrested for communicating physical threats...every time DH has let her justify it with being annoyed or supposedly "not knowing" she shouldn't have done it. Whatever! She's 14 not 4! I feel like why should I even bother trying to talk to her about her behavior and how she shouldn't do those things because apparently it is ok in Daddy's eyes. I will NOT tolerate that kind of behavior from my BKs, even now when they really are to young to know better on their own. Why should I let it slide from SD? Because ultimately she is not my responsibility she is his, that's why...right? Ugh!

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that's right..... she's his

that's right..... she's his disaster.....

until she brings that behavior in your home....

That's my problem...I don't

That's my problem...I don't want her to get annoyed at my kids and decide to punch them in the face to get them to leave her alone. She has never acted like she would ever do that, but I just don't know. It bothers me that she acts like this. I don't think it is normal teenage girl behavior. I never acted like that when I was her age and I think I was a fairly normal teenager. It doesn't really help my trust issues with her either. I just so sick of her drama. Every week, if not day, it's something new we have to deal with. I so wish she was going to have to go on her summer visitation to BM this year, but apparently she doesn't have to if she doesn't want to.

May those that love us, love us.
And those that don't love us,
May God turn their hearts.
And if He doesn't turn their hearts,
May He turn their ankles
So we will know them by their limping.
~Irish Blessing

She says the boy gives her a

She says the boy gives her a hard time every time they have class together and she finally had enough and punched him. She thinks he must have turned her in for it. This is not the first time she has acted out like this because she didn't like what someone was saying to her. We've tried to tell her that there are other ways to go about getting someone to shut up and leave her alone besides physical violence. I think the boy probably likes her and that is how he is flirting with her. She doesn't have a lot of common sense, and she has recently decided that she might be a lesbian (that's a whole other blog...haha!), so I'm sure she was having a gut reaction to try and get him to shut up. This is a kid that gets away with telling her own father to shut up and tries to get away with slamming doors in my face when she doesn't want to hear what I have to say. She has never tried to physically harm me or my kids, but I will never let me guard down because I am not sure that would be out of the question.

UUGGHH!!! you can't make

UUGGHH!!! you can't make her go for summer?? make he rlife at your place hell so she wants a break!!

if she hasn't displayed any anger or physical violence towards your kids, you kinda don't want to say anything -- so she doesn't do it for attention/reaction.... but at the same time you want to grab her by the neck and say "look you little terror, touch my angels and i will be the last thing you ever touch"

i'm no good for advice on this one, but i feel your pain!

Actually, it's nice to see

Actually, it's nice to see someone else thinks the same things I do! HAHA! I wish there was a way to make her go, but her daddy isn't going to do that if she doesn't want to. I think she already thinks it is awful living here, but her alternative is not any better, and here she knows she is well taken care of. BM is not exactly stable. I certainly wouldn't plant any ideas in her head that might make her lash out for attention, but you're right, I really just want to get in her face and say, "listen here, missy! You better not ever bring that behavior in this house or I will make sure you leave and never come back!" But I'm not saying a word, not one single word, unless it is absolutely necessary.

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