Another Breaking Point
So I have never blogged on my situation with my 15yr old SD but I need another outlet besides my family. I was a SK myself I pulled all the usuals playing the parents to get what I wanted, etc. My husband came from this happy go lucky Christian home an is as wet behind the ears as he can be. I married an older man an there's only a 15 yr old age difference between my SD an I. We have a really good bond until things don't go her way. For instance her mom has just given her permission to go to Beach Week with her soon to be 18 yr old SB and his friends! Hello I don't think so!! My husband and his ex hate each other they can only communicate via text or email which I find ludicrous. I had to make him text her last night when my SD dropped the bomb about her adventure to communicate that this trip was not appropriate for a 15yr old girl. Naturally she has sent no response. So I made him put on his big boy pants and call, she won't answer. I'm literally sick. I love this kid although we have been through hell the last seven years because of her I still love her! Am I over reacting? An I could just smack her mother until I couldn't feel my hand I'm so angry at her for not valuing her childs life sooo much could go wrong on this excursion!
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Sorry honey, but you can't
Sorry honey, but you can't control what her mother allows or doesn't allow her daughter to do! And if your husband has to be poked, prodded and cajoled into parenting his own kid, there's bigger issues with him than with the mother.
Yes, so much can go wrong on SD's trip. But guess what? Not for you to worry about. You have no control over this situation. She has 2 parents and as much as you want to be, you're not one of them.
You've done all you can. It's up to her parents now.
Our BM thought it would be a
Our BM thought it would be a good idea to have a male foster child who was only a couple years older than SD when she was a young teen.
My DH sent a certified, return receipt requested letter that in a polite, business-like manner stated, "Are you fucking INSANE?!? Do you WANT to be a grandma this young??" She didn't have any fosters older than SD of the opposite sex after that.
Your right misSTEP that's
Your right misSTEP that's exactly what the BM does constantly. Her favorite game is OMG you want to go live with your dad, OMG my check might stop, I need buy you off an give you what you want, then I'll mistreat you and care about my fiances kids more than you once your settled back in my house. It got so bad we told my SD she was not allowed in our home until she could admit she was playing sides and it had to stop because it was affectiving our then 4 yr old daughter. Well she was gone 7 months and they were the most relaxing I've had for 7 years she's been back exactly a year next month and here we go again.