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Submitted by rudysgonenow on Tue, 08/02/2011 - 12:17pm

Sad found out today husband has temp costody..have been here all summer, they have taken my husband away from me. i need help with this......they have him 98% of the time, we have been alone together for 10 years and now its a family of four and i really feel like a 3rd wheel......HELP

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Submitted by neversecondplace on Tue, 08/02/2011 - 12:22pm

Well I feel for you. That sucks. My home too has been commandeered by my lazy lying drug using ss20. Just shows up un announced. Now I have two stupid ass men sitting on my sofa (ss20 & DH). My husband spends his every moment catering to his son. Even did his laundry. OMG. WTF?? he's 20 not 2. I want my house back.

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Submitted by dragonfly5 on Tue, 08/02/2011 - 12:34pm

You are living my worst nightmare! Love the fskids. But don't want them all the time. I have already raised my daughter.

I love my time with FDH. I do not want to share him everyday either.

Is the mother incapable of caring for them? Isee she lives in CO but why did does he have custody?

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Submitted by FrickenFrackenBleep on Tue, 08/02/2011 - 2:39pm

Oh girl! I feel your pain. We only have them for the summers now and I can barely handle that. I have drank more beer in the past month than I do the rest of the year put together. I was as close to a batchelor as you can get and still be female before I met my DH. I willingly took on the "package deal" because he is worth it and they are good kids. But now they are getting older and the ongoing court crap just makes me sometimes wonder what the hell I was thinking. My greatest fear is to have them one day come and live with us and tear us apart. Right now they are only 7 and 9 and they already manipulate him. I cannot imagine what it will be like in 5 years. And to have to deal with the psycho ex on top of it all. Not to mention the financial strain from constantly going to court. Ugh! Wish I had words to help you but I don't. The sad thing (and I'm sure I will get slammed for typing this) is that I am in remission from cancer and I actually dread them coming to live with us more than the cancer coming back. I know that sounds harsh and I agree but the day I actually realized that this is how I felt was a real shock. I know I'm not suppose to feel this way but in reality I don't have control over it. FYI I'm not a horrible person and I treat his kids well. I'm just honest with myself and don't buy into the one big happy family BS. I know it does happen, but not very often. And I am envious of those who have it. I know my situation isn't the same but I just wanted you to know that there are others who don't get the fairytale when the kids come.