Well, I got three replies, so I'm not sure what I did that 3 people saw what I wrote. It's a long story, but I'll try to sum it up! My husband and I are in our mi-late 50's. We've both been married before and both have grown children. My youngest daughter was 16 when I married my husband, so she was living with us. Before she turned 18, she started seeing a guy that was way too old for her (31). We tried to make her understand, but decided that since she was almost 18, we wouldn't force her to give it up right or wrong, that's what we did). When she turned 18, she and her boyfriend moved to a bigger nearby city and lived together for about a year. During that time, we found out that my husband's youngest daughter was pregnant. After the baby was born, we were SHOCKED to learn that this baby was my daughter's boyfriend's. So, my daughter was DEVASTATED!!! For the past 2 years, I haven't had anything to do with Gary's daughter or her baby, and my daughter hates her. My husband is in such a terrible position! Now, last May, my husband's oldest daughter got out of prison and asked if she could stay with us for a while. We agreed it would be ok, and never set a specific timeline. I figured maybe a few months. Well, it's 8 months later and I am now staying with my sister because I am always so angry. It will be easy for everyone to judge. However, my husband is a very hard working man with LOTS of integrity. His older daughter is on disability for depression. In my line of work, I see UNBELIEVABLE abuse of the system; people going on disability for 'ailments' most of us work with every day. It was too difficult for me to see my aching husband go to work every day, long hours, and myself go to work, while his daughter could sleep all day. She also got her son on disability when she got out of prison. He's a little slow and has ADHD. My husband and I tried counselling, and I miss him so much. We thought that since our kids were grown, we could just be together for a few happy years until we die! But instead there is horrific turmoil because he feels defensive about his daughters, and I feel angry all the time.