Alright, having second thoughts about tonight
Now I'm having second thoughts about going to movies. I feel like if I don't go home, and you should've seen the little beam on the ss11's face last night when I came home later. I feel like he is winning. Maybe I shoujld go home and make his life a little more miserable. But can I go home and not be sucked into making dinner and etc.? I miss my man.
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That is the double edged
That is the double edged sword. If you leave the house and disengage, they get undivided attention and the run of the house. I don't leave. I just go about my business at home and ignore. I do cook dinner, but my dh is in my corner, so it is different. Plant yourself in front of the tv. Do not allow them to watch what they want. Get yourself some takeout and when anyone asks you for anything, respond with "I'm sorry, I can only respond to people's request when they show some genuine respect for me."
"God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy" and you can't change crazy!!
Go to the movies. Don't
Go to the movies. Don't beat yourself up because you should enjoy yourself. There's no winning and losing in this situation, you're just choosing your sanity over a night with them.
That is a good point CG "God
That is a good point CG
"God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy" and you can't change crazy!!
Do what is best for you. You
Do what is best for you. You are letting him "win" by even wondering what he thinks.
Go and do what makes you happy. Suggest a babysitter for a night, have dinner with your DH. Go to the movies, see friends, SS is happy--so what?? are you happy?? believe me, letting this all go and getting back to you is all you need.
ok doll...what did you end
ok doll...what did you end up doing?? PLEASE tell me you went to see your movie
"Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else." ~Judy Garland
I received some some bad
I received some some bad news last evening right as I was leaving work. I went home. I still got a chewing out when I said something to ss11. Even ss11 was looking at his Dad like what are you yelling about? There was more yelling and name calling from him to me. He then proceeded to fuss as ss11. I went in and apologized to ss11, we had a nice little exchange, ss11 apologized to me to which I said "you did nothing wrong sweetheart." Strange strange man. He's snaps a lot and is aggrevated when they are there and complains when they are not. going to gym tonight.
He is aggravated because he
He is aggravated because he now has to take care of his kids. Go out and keep your sanity!!! This is not a win/lose thing.
It sounds like your DH realizes what is going on. He is mad at you for disengaging and he is mad at his son because his son is the reason for your disengaging (which is why you both got yelled at). Your DH's aggravation should stop after he gets used to being a parent. I went through this for the first 2 weeks of disengaging. If DH is up to it, it will get better. Hang in there.
"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus
csong, that makes sense. He
csong, that makes sense. He had to put his big boy pants on last night and he went to the grocery store all by himself! I do hope truly that he realized ss is the reason. btw the more I think of it it is not ss11. It is bf. I just found out what dh means and I live with my bf of 5 years. I don't really want to remarry right now, neither does he. Anyway. bf's attitude and guilt drive a lot of this resentment and aggrevation. I think you are right though, I'm hanging, by a toe, but hanging!! lol