you do nothing, no cooking, no rides, no lunch, no money  no going anywhere with you, no party no vacation, no going to family events.  Any question or problem, Thak it up with BP.  You keep this up until you get what you want,  respect, cleaning, ect.  Then you ease up a little, if thing stay the same, you ease more.  If they go back to old ways,  more disengaging.