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SD13 discovered her sexuality

SeeYouNever's picture

SD13 has discovered her sexuality and is practicing on DH. *bad*

DH and SD were on a FaceTime call. SD had ignored his attempts to contact her several times and my husband decided to be very persistent so he called twice in a row. SD has been eating up my husband's recent increase in his pursuit of her. A combination of it being her birthday and him trying to nail down summer visitation the reason behind him not accepting an answer calls.

My husband has figured out the pattern now but he needs to try to call SD several times over the course of a day and then maybe after the fourth or fifth attempt she will actually answer. This is been going on for a about a month now. It used to be that my husband would try to call her once every couple days but now he's put all of his contact attempts into one day and it seems to be working on better, although makes him look very desperate. She always gives an excuse like she was busy. I don't know how busy a 13 year old really is when she is stuck at home can't,go anywhere and school is out. She will not let her phone out of her sight but she is too busy to accept a brief FaceTime call or to respond to a text message from DH.

Last night on his fifth attempt to call SD she answers in a breezy voice and says that she was changing and then giggles. She then flops under her bed holding phone above her and stroking her hair. It's pretty clear that she's enamored with her own image on the phone and not really looking at who she's talking to. She's beginning to get breasts and had her shirt pulled way down. I don't think it was a v-neck but it looked like it was stretched, do you know what I mean? She had it stretched so it was as if it was a very deep v-neck and she kept stroking her face and neck. She spent the call lolling around on her bed touching her hair stroking her face and then pressing her arms together to try to have cleavage. She was even pursing her lips and blew my DH a bunch of kisses, like they were punctuation to what she said. Once they hung up my husband gave me a look like "WTF was going on?"

​​I read all of your submissions about your teenage stepdaughters and afraid I've just crossed into that myself. Any advice? if she were my daughter there would be no way she would be allowed to have a phone alone in her room.

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Rumplestiltskin's picture

Gross. Maybe that's a consequence of the "Disney Dad" phenomenon? The dads don't discipline so the girls don't see them as an authority figure, just as a man to manipulate to get things from? I was raised in an intact family and flirting with my own father was the last thing i would have done. Ew!

SeeYouNever's picture

This hasn't happened in person yet but my husband is pretty good at shutting things down. As recently as when SD was 11 she would beg for him to carry her like a little child, he refused. He's also pushed back to make sure there expressions of affection are more appropriate now that she's bigger. No more sitting on his lap for crawling all over him.

Thisisnotus's picture

Gross....I think SD12 here isn't far behind.

She is a super creeper on DH. skids are way way behind their peers as far as puberty goes but when it strikes SD12 I think my DH is gonna have a big problem on his hands with the stalker.

Simpleton21's picture

My SD has been a mini wife and overly affectionate with DH since I met her when she had just turned 7 (my dumb@$$ ignored all the red flags/warning signs). DH didn't realize it or notice it until a few years ago when she decided to sit on his lap and kiss him seductively on the cheek.  He FINALLY called her out and told her that was inappropriate and told BM the same.  I would like to say that made a difference but I don't think it did.  BM won't allow SD to be on social media but SD has consistently bypassed BM's parental controls and made accounts only to be caught and then cause drama by deflecting from it all.  SD receives no real punishment ever.  She was caught private messaging an older couple talking about BJ's, talking about being "pansexual" and basically soliciting herself.  She contacted these older people and was overtly sexual with them.  When she got caught she started throwing other people under the bus and diverting the attention of herself.  BM took her phone but only briefly then bought her a new iphone for her bday.  DH still wants to believe she is an innocent little girl.  I believe she will be pregnant between 13-14 and cry rape and ruin someone's life.  Oh and she also was caught stealing her mom's dildo but diverted that onto her cousin. 

I guess what I'm getting at is...this won't change it will only get worse unless her BM and your DH are on the same page and do something about it. 

BethAnne's picture

I don't think this behavor is out of the ordinary or that concerning, but I do think it should be addressed. He needs to find a way to address it with her in a straight forward manner that lets her know it is not appropriate to act like that with her dad - if he can talk to bm he could also mention it to her so that she can help reinforce the message. As you noted she probably doesn't realize it is inappropriate and is just enjoying how she looks in the camera. 

I would just go with things like..."can you stop playing with your breasts while you are talking to me please" or "SD, can you sit up please. I can see further down your top than I want to" or even tease her a little and say "save those all those kisses for your boyfriends, just one will do for me"  

 

StayTrue's picture

Lmfao . My SD8 acts like this but without breast and the giggles about getting dressed. My husband honestly noticed it before me lord knows what it will be like when she is a teen. *gag*