Am I making a "scene" for nothing?

:O Hi everyone, since I'm new to ST site I thought I might give a little insight to my life. I'm in a live togrhther relationship with a man 9 years older than me. We are together now for just a little more than 5 years and believe me a lotta tears. He was married before for 5 years and two children came out of the marrige a daughter 9 years of age and a son of 7 years this year. Since they where little when I met my BF I could cope with them since they where reluctant on me but now things have changed they are in school now and with the daughter going into her teens she makes like I don't exist when they come to our house over weekends sometimes I don't even talk to her it's just Hallo and good- bye for 3 days. They simply have no respect towards me and their dad has made it very clear that there is nobody more importent than them to him on earth and he will do anything to keep them happy. I don't know whether it's coming from the ex or not. Sure would like to believe that. They (the kids and the dad) make me feel powerless, I can't say a word about the ex or the kids to him then I'm insecure and I'm being a b@#ch. How does one cope with this? The demands? The phone calls? I simply feel that

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Shatzi...run and dont look

Shatzi...run and dont look back. How can you live like that..my gosh I would of left years ago. Things will not get better, they will not improve, they will only get worse. You need to regain your sanity and get out. You feel powerless and do not speak to these kids for 3 days..holly molly..Your BF has no respect for you because if he did he would not behave or let his children behave this way. You wrote in your blog that your BF said nothing is more important to him than his kids and while thats great..where do you fit in?? Good luck!! Z

Leave. Nothing will get

Leave. Nothing will get better... this will be your life for the rest of it... if you SO treats the children like that, and puts them first... then this will not change. The WIFE is supposed to be the partner, and the most importaint... this will strengthen the relationship with the husband, AND the children. Right now the priorities are skewed. Think long and hard about this decision, you only get one life...