For the past 13 years both my husband and his ex have left the majority of the chlld rearing of their boys to me. I have been consistant in all of the rewards and punishments, what went for the older son would stand for the younger son.

Then this morning when my youngest son was being picked up by his girlfriends father with whom he works with, asks if hecan sleep overnight. His daughter has just turned 14 and my son is turning 17. I'm not comfortable with it, and her parents just don't even seem to see a problem with it. We all were younger, I know what 17 year old boys are like. SS17 knew I'd say no so he made sure my husband was the one who was asked, and he said sure.

This young thing will do anything to keep a boys attetion. Do I have to ask? Am I the only one who sees problems with this? Does anyone else hate when you get the line that they're the parent?

I'm good enough to go to parent teacher night, take the children to the docter and dentist, take the children to all their sport and after school events, and make sure they are on top of thier studies. Then when I say I don't think it's a good idea for an overnight stay I'm being unreasonable. And this isn't a once off, he's talking weekly.

You just want to throw your hands up and give up.