please....
I am perplexed by DH's relationship w/sd16. I know he is entitled to whatever type relationship he chooses to have w/her and v/v. However, he complains about her not calling him, (since she moved out in Feb) and her lack of concern for her 2 brothers (our bs'). She also never comes by to visit him, even though her maternal grandmother lives less than a block down the street???? She visits her regularly.
I don't say much to him about it, b/c I figure he's entitled to his relationship, etc., but it is seriously beginning to grate my one last nerve. He complains constantly, and frankly, I am tired of hearing about it. I have been tuning him out. During one of these "tune out" days, he apparently told me that he wants her to come to the lake with us one weekend. Obviously I ignored him and tuned him out. So, today my son calls her (he hasn't seen or spoken to her in months) and asks her to come camping w/them at the lake in a few weeks. She says yes and he is excited and tells me about it afterward (I wasn't home). I am madder than an old wet hen for several reasons..... 1. I KNOW he set my 7yo bs up to calling her, he never mentions her, and for him to just want to call her out of the blue is unlikely. 2. I was planning on joining them for that weekend, and I do NOT want to share a tent w/her. I don't even want to be around her. 3. She treats her dad like garbage and only wants to go b/c we just bought a new jet ski.
I really don't know what to say to him about it, I guess I can just be "sick" that weekend, but I really wanted to go. The boys school will be starting in only 5 wks, and we go to the lake EVERY weekend as a family. I know she is his family, but I no longer consider her mine. Plus, even if I do suck it up and go, she will be reporting EVERYTHING back to BM, which irritates the living crap out of me. I am a private person and if I wanted BM to know how many times a day I went to the bathroom, I'd call her myself. Plus, I am overweight, and she and BM LOVE to make fun of me, so I DO NOT want to give them any more reason to make light of my weight (hahaha) than they already have..... Any suggestions????