We called the cops on stupid BM this weekend.  She decided to try to punish DH for his "shitty attitude"....his response to her shitty attitude really....here is the just of it.  We were supposed to meet to get SD at 10:30.  He confirmed the same neutral location we always use b/c when she is being spiteful (and has been lately) she uses the agreement which states her parents home.  Anyways, she states "neutral place, you're lucky I went to church today"....and of course stupid DH says, "and you're lucky I give her back an hour early" b/c we have been doing that as well "for SD's sake" obviously.  Anyways, that pissed her off and of course she decided we could come to HER house to get SD if we wanted b/c she no longer agreed to neutral space.  DH says NO I don't agree to YOUR house, so parent's house as agreement states if we can't agree then or I'll call the cops".  Of course she thought he was bluffing.  We get to her parent's house she is of course not there.  So we send her 1 more text saying final chance to show up or we'll call the cops.  She ignores it so we call the cops and report it.  Then she starts texting (obviously her mommy let her know we were talking to the cops) "SD doesn't know what is going on, she just wants to spend time with you, she is happy to see you."  So we tell her okay, we're on our way, but didn't tell her we were going to meet the cops there as well so she can't falsely claim that she is threatened by DH as she likes to fake claim at her whim as well.  She's out front happily throwing the ball with SD.  SD runs to the car and DH texts, "not yet I'm waiting on the cops" and they rolled up at the same time.  I'll say the look of complete dispair on BM's face at that point was priceless.  She sends SD inside, cop talks to DH then goes over and talks to BM, confirms drop off at her parents, and then after he leaves BM texts "you better not tell my daughter anything or I'll proceed forward with court on Monday like I've been planning".  Not sure what she is proceeding with.  DH hasn't done anything.  Only thing she can do is go after more CS so I'm sure that is what she will do out of spite.  Well of course SD is upset so we explain to her that we didn't want to do things this way but we are tired of her mother messing with our time and we wanted her at 10:30 as planned but her mom was letting her negative feelings towards DH interfere with that and we won't be bullied by her over his time anymore.  SD says, "oh okay, well that explains why she wouldn't let me call you and kept telling me you were just running late".  Aww, poor BM's lies are exposed.  I try not to involve the children like this but BM needs knocked off her high horse.  BM is going to regret going to church even more b/c Tuesday and Thursday are the weeknights we have her to have until 9pm per the agreement instead of 8pm like we had been compromising on for so long...and SD starts school today.  Good thing you went to church BM.  Really helped you become a better person *GAG*.  

Oh and on top of field hockey she now has her in softball as well and the 2 overlap in practice.  This should be real fun.  Way to over book and over control a child.  Which of course interferred with DH's therapist apt with SD as well.  Hopefully the therapist is starting to see the real problem.....