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Submitted by SisterNeko on Mon, 04/08/2013 - 10:18am

DH told me last night after dropping off sKids with BM that he really missed them last night, I told him I didn't and he said "yes you do."

I really don't, at least not this week. It was Spring Break and I had to spend all day every day with them - so yeah I have seen enough of them to last me a week. Smile

It's 50/50 EOW custody and I like it that way most of the time. While BM is a horrible mother and does the dumbest things, and I do think sKids would be better off with us full-time. Most of the time I don't want to take on the responsibility because I know it would take months if not years to undo the damage that BM has done.

Plus SS7 was way over tired all week and on the brink of a panic attack - which I hope he has at BM's house this week and not mine.

DH and I are trying to get pregnant and having issues, I feel like most of the problem is my stress level, I have an anxiety disorder and I can feel it affecting me. I am trying to manage it on my own but I have talked to a doctor about it as well. Every time I talk to DH about starting behavioral therapy for stress he like gets depressed. Not sure if he just doesn't want the cost (he stresses about money) or doesn't want to admit them his kids stress me out and are making me sick.

Is it bad that I don't 'miss' them?

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Submitted by PeanutandSons on Mon, 04/08/2013 - 10:34am

I don't ever miss my skids. We are full time custodial. They spent last summer with mil....12 full weeks. I didn't miss them one iota. Didn't speak to them on the phone but once the entire time....didn't miss them at all.

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Mon, 04/08/2013 - 10:44am

I know this isn't the point but your one sentence struck a cord with me.

"that he really missed them last night, I told him I didn't and he said "yes you do."

Nothing annoys me more than when I state my feelings about something and DH contradicts me.

Ummmmm....hello....I just said I don't miss them, don't be an ass and tell me that I do....

Now I'm so annoyed that all I want to do is go rip my DH's ears off of his head.

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Submitted by SisterNeko on Mon, 04/08/2013 - 2:49pm

I am pretty sure that I just looked at him dumb founded for a minute and then was like... "No I really don't think I do."

I did take the time to think about it. I don't miss sKids but I do like the structure that comes with having them around. I HAVE to get up at 7 and I HAVE to get dressed. I clean the house just to have something boring to do so they don't follow me around Smile

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Submitted by SisterNeko on Mon, 04/08/2013 - 6:01pm

We eat out but it a rare treat and when we do I feel like I need to go for a run. lol. A few weeks ago I did get both kids to start eating salad by telling them it was rabbit food, apparently rabbit as cool. Most nights I like to put a home cooked meal on the table and DH knows that I only make ONE meal, you either eat it or not.

I have not miscarried but we have been trying since October to get pregnant with no luck so I am trying to think about it and focus on getting health so that when we do get pregnant their hopefully won't be any issues. Plus is set the stage for me to be active while pregnant and hopefully have a better delivery.

Let me know how this continues to work for you.

I have also thought about taking up martial arts or kick boxing to blow off steam Smile

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Submitted by 3familiesIn1 on Mon, 04/08/2013 - 3:55pm

Yes. Unfortunately, no, it doesn't make it so, not for all the wishing in the world, believe me, I wish I did love my skids, my life would be less complicated, but I don't, and all the wishing from DH and myself STILL doesn't make it so.

I don't miss them, I don't even really think about them when they aren't here. Such is life DH - such is life.

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Submitted by Living the dream on Mon, 04/08/2013 - 12:54pm

No, I don't. And no, it isn't bad that you don't.

I could go the rest of my life and never see them again and it would not diminish the quality of my life. It might, in fact, improve it.

And my skids aren't even that bad. I think it's just the nature of skids.

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Submitted by Drac0 on Mon, 04/08/2013 - 1:14pm

*sigh*
I wish I could say I miss him...As much as my SS annoys me, the truth of the matter is that I cannot see my life without him.

Sure, I breathe a sigh of relief when SS goes back to his Dad's on Fridays. I look forward to being able to talk to DW without having our conversations interupted and hijacked. I look forward to being able to watch movies above "General" ratings without having SS demanding that we explain to him what certain words an actor said mean or "why is that funny?". Most of all I look forward to not having to nag him.

I love DW. I love her so very much. So when SS goes back to his Dad's for an extended amount of time, she misses him and I start feeling her pain. she begins to wallow into a depression that I wish I could snap her out of. Alas, I have no such power. Only SS can do it. When SS returns, DW's happiness returns and, as a consequence, so does mine.

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Submitted by SisterNeko on Mon, 04/08/2013 - 3:04pm

Oh I was a little agitated by that comment when I went to bed. I just didn't want to fight with him about it then - I was tired. And it's like talking to a wall some times with him.