So far BM hasn't gotten DH anything for Father's Day. It's in the CO though that they have to assist sKids in getting gifts for the other parent on some holidays.

Not that we are worried. She always buys him weird crap. But the reasons why interest me. We think BM is having money issues, when they first got divorced BM would buy him expensive things and DH would always get her something small but in recent year BM has started getting the hint and getting small things.

But I also went off on her when she sent balloons over to the house for DH on Valentines Day, which is not on the list in the CO and completely inappropriate in my book. She said the boys wanted to spend their allowance in 'us' (but ss8 said gma got the balloons for them and they were re-gifting) I told her that DH and I didn't need 'things' just their time.

We did get her something for Mother's Day since that txt conversation. DH's birthday comes next then BM's. DH thinking if she doesn't get him anything for his bday then we shouldn't get her anything for her but I think we should continue to follow the CO and make note that she isn't. It's a minor thing, I know, but what would you do?

I did take the boys shopping last week and we got DH something for Father's Day. So it's not like he got nothing. They asked if we could get something for thief step-dad and I told them to talk to BM. It's not my place. ( I have told her its not her place to get me gifts)