Hi everyone new here...so we're not married but living together for 5 years now dating for 7 I have 19,17,15, yr oldboys and almost 13 yr old daughter they're are 2 father's but lucky me both were losers and left the picture permanently. We aren't married but SO has w boys 15 and 13 they do see their mom EOW and a few weeks in a summer but other than that she's not very involved  I mean sadly she's had 3more relationships 4 if u count the latest that lasted a few weeks another son who also lives with his father his 15 yr old had ADHD I don't even know myself why he stopped taking meds but basically Cally let's see how he does without it. He's not a bad kid he's really not disrespectful just odd. We butt heads pretty bad bc sometimes I just can't understand him like can u even hear. He did move in with his mom (bad idea) about a month ago and came this past weekend to visit it didn't go very well for me I hid in my room most of the time so as not to tick off his dad by saying something. His 13 year old is a bit of a whiner very spoiled but one of mine is too lol he's the baby and unbeknown to rest of kids but is my SO only biological son (15 yr old was about a year old when he met BM) him and I don't have too many issues. My 17 year old has mental health issues and we have been on an emotional rollercoaster for almost 2 years. My 15 and 13 yr old ohh my they're BD was a sociopath we split when she was 4 and after a few years of child support and visits he takes them from me cause he got remarried and when they didn't fit his new life he put them in Mental Institutuons( I trusted him and gave him custody on paper ) My SO helped me pay a lawyer and we finally got them back after 2 years and BD gave away rights and bailed so as not to pay CS. Well that's the stress of our family any questions just ask...  I need help him and I just stopped seeingg eye to eye to on everything. Well truth is I never did but always believed him and I could overcome anything. Our kids are great together him and I are great together. But as coparents we stink. I discipline one way he doesn't at all I ask and stay involved even at times helicopter my kids and he couldn't even tell u a teachers name. We do not get CS from any other parent but we don't struggle too bad. But he couldn't even tell u what size his kids wears I'm stressed Im overwhelmed I get no appreciation I don't know how to detach I want our relationship I want our family but I'm seeing small effects on my BK and I feel like if I don't do something soon we won't make it