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BM not supervising FSS(advice please)

sixxnguns's picture

FH is thinking about contacting CPS about BM...FSS showed up here with no clean clothes, cheap flip flops, and filthy. He then goes on to tell us that his mom lets him go outside WITHOUT her to ride his bike. They live on the 2nd floor of an apartment building and she claims to watch him from the window...now from MY experience with CPS I was told you cannot leave a 5 year old outside UNATTENDED and watch them from the window...you just wouldn't have time to get to them if someone snatched them up. I'm wondering if CPS will think he's just reporting her out of revenge...

He has ONE pair of shorts at BM's house which look like underwear...and he's been watching Beavis and Butthead OF ALL THINGS!! Now he and my daughter are only allowed to play in front of us since I don't know the things that are being shown to him and the things he's being exposed to...I am so not comfortable in this situation anymore..It wouldn't be so bad if I didn't have a child, but my child is involved and she's already been through enough...

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bellacita's picture

this woman obviously doesnt care about her kid. i dont think it matters if CPS DOES think its just out of revenge...they would have to investigate anyway. this poor kid is seriously neglected. are u thinking about going for full custody? i thought u guys were moving away? where is all the CS going that yr FH is paying??? definitely not on the kid. i dont have experience, but i would think its worth a shot.

sixxnguns's picture

we tried for full custody...this state is VERY PRO BM...he didn't have a chance.

bellacita's picture

she wouldnt want to give up custody and her paycheck, correct?

bellacita's picture

i swear to god...it ought to be illegal to use yr kids as bait, a paycheck, revenge or any other thing these BMs "use" their kids for.

smurfy1smile's picture

There is no excuse for this. CS or not there are ways to cloth your child for very little or no money - garage sales, thrift stores, salvation army (they will give you a voucher for X amount of dollars for clothing). A five year old has no business outisde without supervision unless you have a fenced in yard. I would report this to CPS pronto. If the child wants to play outside, BM could, at the very least, sit outside and read a book while the child rides their bike or plays at the park. She could even chat on the phone - cell phones are great that way. I would be embarassed if my child went to anyone's home filthy and in ill fitting clothes. I get my BD7 back from her BF, filthy, hungry and tired EOW. It sucks.

BabygotBack1988's picture

if it is seriously bothering you then go for it my nephew is also five and plays out in the avenue while my sister is in the kitchen ect ect this is a totally decent neighbourhood tho there are a lot of children and they all take turns in watching them there is always one of the parents out there so i suggest you go investigate

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