I have been divorced for 4 years now and my daughter lives with my boyfriend and I (going on 2 years). My daughter has very little involvement with her father (maybe once a month or so). She is 17 years old and a senior in high school. We have been through a lot since the divorce and my daughter has had some difficult times dealing with loyalties, separation anxiety, etc. She has been in extensive counseling and is continuing. I too saw a counselor to sort out some of the guilt feelings I have. First of all, I was married for 20 years with a husband who resented his own children. When I made the decision to leave, it was for the happiness of all concerned. I did find happiness with my boyfriend.

My question is, is it wrong to insist that my daughter spend one weekend a month either at her father's, grandmother's or godparent's house from Friday evening until Sunday morning before church. I talked to the therapist who told me it was completely normal to want alone time - a break from the every day. My daughter sees it as we don't want her around, when that is so far from the truth. I tried to explain that I too need a break... She works right next door to where we live and previously, she used to stop in before and after work if she spent the night at her dad's. I insisted that when she is away for the weekend, that she not stop in. I am wrong for wanting 2 days a month alone with my boyfriend to strengthen our relationship and have quality one-on-one time?