SD15 is just loving the attention! :(
SD15 is loving the attention that all of the bullshit has gotten her over the weekend.
On Sunday, we went to my mom's to celebrate Memorial Day. My entire family was there, and before we left, SD was told that she had to stay with either me or her dad the entire time. It was annoying to have SD fallow me around, but I couldn't tell her to give me space, like I normally do, because I had just told her she had to stay with me or Dad.
When we got home, Sd and I had a long talk, and at the end of that talk, SD told me how sorry she was. I told SD that if she was really sorry, she would make sure that it didn't happen again. Then I said goodnight, because Hubby was calling me into the other room.
While Therapist was here, I had logged SD's KIK account onto Hubby's cell phone, looking for information on what SD had put out there. Hubby was calling me, because I had not logged it out, and SD kept getting messages. While I was looking at the messages, it kept logging out.
Hubby was getting annoyed with me, thinking that I was hitting the wrong button or something. After the third time, I knew it wasn't something I was doing, so I went into SD's room, to make sure she wasn't sneaking any electronics. Guess who had her Kindle and was sneaking back onto the banned application?
I was so mad, I could of spit fire! Not even five minutes before getting caught, SD had apologized and said she wouldn't do it again. When I asked her why she had done it again, she said it was because she wouldn't get caught.
Yesterday, SD asked if she could take a bath (right now, she has no privacy, so yes, she had to ask!). I told her it would be fine, but I would be checking to make sure that she didn't have any electronics. About an hour after she went into the bathroom, I started yelling to her to hurry up, other people had to use the bathroom, but I never went in to check on her.
SD called me back to the bathroom, then. I told her she would have to wait until she got out, thinking that she was naked in the bathtub, and I didn't want to hear/see anything more about sex for a little while. Sd yelled again, and I went in to check on her.
SD wanted to know how to find her hole!!! I told her I was done discussing sex with her for the day, and SHE KNOWS HOW TO FIND HER HOLE, SHE HAD PUT A HAIRBRUSH IN THERE!! Then I stormed out of the bathroom. It took another half hour for her to get out of the bathtub.
I went to bed early, last night. I guess, after I went to bed, SD cornered her dad to ask him more about sex. She wanted to know if sex hurts, and said she just wants to feel a penis inside of her. She told him that she masturbates lot. Hubby shut her down, of course, but she just kept trying to talk about sex with him. 
SD is just loving the attention. I really really hate my life, right now.
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This is not normal behaviour,
This is not normal behaviour, in my opinion. This is not natural curiousity. I also don't think she is wanting to know about sex by asking these questions. She already knows about sex, that's very clear.
Her inappropriateness is shocking to me. I'm trying to figure out what her motive / intent is. I don't think it's about attention. My gut is saying something else. I'd seriously consider some inpatient treatment for her as well as it sounds like if this is not nipped in the bud, lord knows what could happen next. You can't watch her 24 hours a day. Inpatient will be intensive treatment to get to the root of this. An hour session with a therapist weekly will probably not do much and force you and your husband to take on the role of therapist. Talk to her therapist about this all and ask her what she thinks of inpatient treatment as she is the expert.
From what I read in one of
From what I read in one of your previous posts, it seems her mother may have exposed her to too much, if not engaged her as well.
Yes, I think she needs inpatient too.
Something is clearly wrong.
Something is clearly wrong. Your husband is in serious denial. She needs to go somewhere for intensive therapy. I would start researching now, or you are eventually on Dr. Phil....
I've read through your posts
I've read through your posts and it seems like this is learned behavior from BM.
My SD13 went through similar things a couple years ago and is still going through it. She also used KIK to meet guys all over the world and was sending very graphic pictures. She is extremely sexually inappropriate although has never accused anyone of any kind of abuse.
Your SD was obviously exposed to a lot at a young age and she probably was never taught boundaries and privacy from BM.
I feel so bad for this child, and I'm glad that you guys are taking the appropriate steps to get her the help she needs.
My advice would that she is never alone with anyone. 3 people in the room at all times. And keep a diary every single day. Take note of what went on that day, if she said or did anything off or inappropriate, keep a log of how often she is speaking with BM or is around BM.
Hugs to you and your family!