She'll get over it. And if she doesn't .. oh well.

It really sucks she's making this power play and trying to add stress to your life. Especially when you're about to have your first baby!

My brother's mother-in-law is the same way .. he is moving his family about an hour from where they currently live, primarily to be closer to work and for the better school districts. His MIL is giving him and his wife a world of crap, and it's just so unnecessary! Just BE HAPPY and SUPPORT your children and their decisions .. you won't change their mind over this petty stuff anyway.

Congratulations to you and your husband on the new baby .. I'm sure whatever name you decide on will be fantastic

On the upside, it doesn't matter. You and DH get to put what you want on the birth certificate and there's not a thing she can do about it. If she's choosing to not listen and decides to get her feelings hurt over it, that's on her. Her behavior is presumptuous and IMO, downright rude. I have a great relationship with my parents, but if either one told me that they were picking out any name for my baby, I'd just flat out tell them it's not going to happen,hurt feelings or not. Then again, the preggo hormones are making me much crankier than usual. Still, way better for her to pissed off and 'hurt'than to give the kid a name you don't want to give it to keep the peace.

"I think not" would be my reply. If you get pushed past that, she is making you go there with her. I don't like to be the bad guy with my mom either but I do tell myself that she gives me no choice or she would run my life if I let her. Your mom had her turn already and now its yours. Its fantastic that you already have names picked out and just make sure you stick to your guns on it.

Yeah, well, my DS's father and I had decided on names. If it was a girl, I got to choose the name I wanted. If it was a boy, we would go with his name.

After so many hours of labor, I decided that I was naming him what *I* wanted. Good thing, too, because his so called father took off to avoid CS and has never been a part of my son's life after age 6 months.

Well dear, who is signing the birth certificate? NOT mom. So relax. Smile and ignore, just like all of the smart posters above me have said.

She can believe whatever the hell she wants, but when it comes down to it - she has NO say, NO control and NO authority.

Your baby -

Congratulations on the pregnancy!!!!

better to be pissed off than pissed on.

just ignore her and stand by your "no, we have names in mind already"- it's ok if she gets pissed off. but don't YOU get pissed on by letting her walk all over your special time.

Ignore! Do what you want...

All you need to tell her is that you'll take her "suggestions" into consideration.

Or tell her the middle name is already picked out, what does she think of Ralph if its a boy or girl??

OMG.. MIL was like this...She was to the point of being obsessive about what we were naming BS... I couldn't see her without her launching into some tirade about this name or that name or how you had to have the same number of syllables in the first and last name (or some such nonsense) DH and I pretty much decided on a name at about the 7 month mark.. then 2 weeks before he was born, MIL fills DHs head with some nonsense about how we should name BS after DHs uncle who committed suicide years ago.... REALLY??? WTF??

through it all I just smiled, acknowledged her, pretended to be greatful for her input and then went about my own business and we named him what WE wanted. Then I didn't feel bad because she did the same damn thing to SIL less than a year later when she was pregnant the difference is SIL tells her to STFU. lol

I'd ask her to just give you a list of names she likes and tell her you'll consider them.

Then, if the name you want to use is similar to one of those you can tell her you "changed it a bit to go better with the first name"

That's IF you want to be nice.

If you don't care...just tell her "No thanks, we have it covered" and ignore her.

Ummmm.... screw your mom?