I sunmed up my situation on my profile and some people should be able to recognize me. SS22 has been re-incarcerated on a bond violation, and they set his 2 bonds high enough, I believe, to keep him there- finally- for the first time! They are no longer playing around, and not alllowing surety (bail bondsmen). My county has had it with him just as much as I!! Now I have to listen to his nightly, expensive whining collect calls to daddy acting like he doesn't know what he did, complaining that daddy doesn't care enough to get him out, complaining that daddy isn't upset enough about his caged baby. 

On the bright side, I admitted to SO that I have been a weak parent to my own child lately, and committed to enforcing bedtime every night, and working on my guilt parenitng. And SO, despite his stress about his own son, made an effort to be more cordial to my kid after our talks of this past week. So far so good on that side of things. We have made peace with each other, and despite my relief at his son being in jail, I am trying to be supportive to SO as I know it hurrts him- and I can't imagine what it would feel like to have your son locked up. Over and over. I try to lead with compassion. My compassion has run out for SS22 I have nothing left to give him. Since his own mother is so screwed up, he told me over and over that he sees me as his mom, and he wants me to raise him. I told him he has already been raised. Too late. And reminded him he HAS a ,mom and I am NOT her (Mercifuly). 

Court is coming up next week- to be continued.