Ok on my phone so sorry for Grammer and bad paragraphs lol but could use some advice.and I tend to ramble. so maybe too long fyi. I'm not trying to be a hard ass to my SD13,but if I don't do something I can for see an issue.
My SD who dh has full custody of and we do get along great normally and try to treat her as my bio and teach her responsibilies. She does do great, high honors and great with her brothers. But since we got her phone for her she was told she was to do the laundry. (I help cause I know the life sucking feeling when it's all on you. ) she understood and saw it more like a job to earn it (both dh and I couldn't have a cell phone if we didn't pay for it)
Latley she has been slacking. Yes dryer has been broken so I step in too..hang dry yuck.. She will wait last minute or say sorry I forgot. Anyways what I need advice on is. If your bio or skid slacked on a choir to earn something would you take the privilege or change the chore to something she would do but didn't like as much... I'm thinking dishes every night after dinner. (We do not have a dishwasher in our new house yet.) I really want to mean it like she is demoted (that would upset her she is a high achiever). I don't want to upset the already moody but we'll behaved teen..something needs done if her lil Bros don't have clean pant ya know wah F I mean. But I also don't want her to turn on me. And all of a sudden think I am just a mean step mom.