Okay, this is kind of hypocritical, but c'mon guys, let's be smart about this and not respond to obvious fishers.

honey, this is not the place for you. This is a place for step mothers and fathers to vent and share with others what they are going through to get advice. I understand that you are unhappy. Might I suggest that you try speaking to your father, not it a disrespectful way but voicing your thoughts in a way that is constructive. Also I think that you need to find a new site to belong too.

I'm sorry you're having a difficult time with your step-mom. Maybe family counseling is in order? I'd also suggest finding another forum that caters to step-kids, so that you can get advice from your peers

Honey I really think you need to sit your dad down and talk to him and see how things go. i don;t know her side of the story but I can tell you that my ss16 is adopted too and he knows but only b/c bm told him and she did it to crush him to upset dh his dad.

Now that he does know I do tell a few people but only b/c ss looks so much like dh then others do and they are his. ss16 knows I only do it b/c I am so amazed at how much he looks like dh then I do it to hurt him. He is more upset with his mom then he is with anyone.

I do think you need to talk with them and see about clearing the air so to speak. good luck

She may not even be aware that she is upsetting you.

AS far as getting rid of the cat and furniture she has every right to do so as I know how an allergy is and how bad that can be. Plus any woman including you when you get older will want to decorate your home to your tastes and not someone elses.

Where is your mom?

Is your step mom on this forum?

hun, ur in the wrong place. dont come on here bashing us stepparents...this is OUR place to bash, vent, ask for advice, about kids like YOU. please, form your own site. it may help u and others like u vent...tbch, most skids give us stepparents NO chance of being able to live normal happy lives, most are entitled brats. so please, just give us this one thing, this site, where u guys cant destroy.

Please take this comment as it's intended: well meaning and with an open heart.

When I was a 17 year old stepdaughter (who's mother was killed, btw) I had a huge laundry list of reasonable sounding complaints and grievances against my stepmom. I was filled with anger, resentment, hurt and betrayal. I channeled all those negative emotions into ambition and used it to drive myself to be independent, self-supporting and very successful (professionally & as a human).

I'm 44 now and have been a SM to 5 children and, trust me, it's harder than it looks. What I've learned between 17 and 44 can't possibly be conveyed in this comment box. Suffice to say that what I didn't account for in my list of grievances against my SM was that she was a good person, she made my father happy (and he was not happy prior to meeting her - he was in permanent grief & despair mode), she contributed financially to the household that I benefited from and she provided a role model of a responsible and kind woman. I also didn't account for the fact that she was to be a permanent day-to-day fixture in my father's life whereas I was a resident there for a few years (in the grand scheme of a life time). Your father needs your support of his new wife more than can probably appreciate and I'm sure you love him enough to want him to be happy.

Seventeen is a transition age to adulthood. Honestly, my advice is that you focus on planning the building blocks of YOUR future. Shift your focus away from what your SM is or is not doing to what you should be doing to become an independent, successful woman and loving daughter.

Best wishes to you on your journey.

P.S. there really is such a thing as karma (or what goes around comes around) and if you try to make her life miserable, trust me, you'll fall in love with a man with 5 kids.

uh there are medications you can take, I have allergies, I happen to be allergic to cats but I have had them around my whole life. Pets are a serious responsability to a child to anyone actually and I don't take kindly to people that treat them like some gimmiky toy that is cute at first but then run it's course and toss them aside. To a lot of people pets are their only friend and confidont. To a child they are their "baby" Getting rid of her pet, especially after she lost her mother was cruel and unusual in my , and it is not up to the child to have to worry about the SM comfort, it is up to the parent to worry about the childs well being and comfort and in doing so you should be able to create a child that learns to think of others. I sympathize with this child. I suspect though that she found this sight because maybe her own step mother is on here...hmmmm

Here we go again. None of us know if someoneoutthere is really being treated this way or if at 17 it is how she perceives it to be. But clearly if we are to believe her then she has one thing in common with the rest of us. Where we have DH's and SO's who do not support us and allow their children to treat us with contempt. She has her SO in this case her father who is failing to support her when she is being bullied and treated badly by his wife.

I hope there is a forum out there for you to vent on Someoneoutthere. If things at home are as you say, then perhaps the school counsellor may be a good starting point for you.

A lot of these complaints seem to be ones that COULD be aimed at your FATHER rather than SM. Of course, it is WAY easier to blame the SM than your own parent.

Unless your SM is Jesus or your dad doesn't have any backbone at all, I highly doubt that she is running the entire world, like you portray.

Find a website/forum for stepchildren.

Talk to your dad. Hopefully he will be able to make things better between you and your SM.

If one day you become a SM, your experinces may help you to better understand what you SKs may feel. Use the way your SM teats you as an example of what not to do if you are a SM one day.

Good luck to you and your family.

I feel your pain. Stepparents aren't always horrible, sometimes they're even really loving and kind but after looking at this forum I think the majority are dim-witted bitches (it's mainly the females I see ranting and boohooing about their issues.) I grew up as a step-kid and when I was 13 my stepmother drove me out of the house with her lying, whining, and complete and utter rudeness. Let me tell all you whiners and complainers around here: YOU MARRIED YOUR SPOUSE AND THEIR KIDS. LOL I laugh so fucking hard when I read "I didn't marry the kids, I married my DH (whatever the hell all your abbreviations mean, I'm assuming that's Dad/Husband). No, bitch, no. You married the kids too! If you didn't want them, well wow, get the fuck out!

Sometimes I can't even begin to fathom how incredibly selfish the majority of stepmothers on here sound. I completely understand because first things first, my stepmom tried to replace my mother when I was a baby. Everyone always told me how she insisted on taking care of me instead of my dad. She was alright, just sort of there as I grew up. Never really mean, never really nice until I was about 7 and her precious little daughter was born (btw, her daughter is now obviously stupid, while I'm smart and successful, so I find it funny how proper parenting like my mom gives can be all the difference.) I was pushed aside pretty damn fast, and she'd probably deny that but it was incredibly obvious. And tbh, I don't think most stepmothers have the capacity to love stepchildren as much as they love their own. But guess what? You don't have to be a MOTHER FUCKING BITCH ABOUT IT. My room was used as storage, she never wanted to do anything with me or even my dad (her husband's) family at all. They all hate her. Wanna know why? Really? CAUSE SHE'S A FUCKING WHORE AND EVERYONE KNOWS IT!!!!!! AHAHAHHA. She cheated on her boyfriend with my dad while he was still married to my mom! Oh look, a couple of cheaters! They deserve eachother<3. My dad's family are simply saints. Even the ones I don't have anything in common with, see, or even get along with. They're all polite, kind, appropriate, and helpful NO MATTER WHAT. So when she says they hate her for no reason, it's not no reason sweetheart it's because you can't keep your legs closed with that nasty vagina of your's. I'd be scared to go near it even with bleach for a much needed disinfection. My mom fucking BEAT HER ASS up for the way she treated me. When I was 13 and finally decided never to go back there, it was a huge fiasco started by...gasp; HER. Her fatass couldn't even get up after my mom was done with her. She deserved it SOOO fucking bad. I'm happy that fat, lazy, narcissistic, bitch got what she deserved. She likes to bad mouth my mom and say she never moved on. My mom was considerate enough not to date after I told her how horrible my stepmom made me feel. Granted, it's more my dad's fault for marrying a psychopathic cunt but he's not much better. My mom is about 300 lbs. lighter than my stepmom, younger looking by at least 10 years even though they're the same age, a better parent, and she has a better daughter (me). My half-sister could never even compare to me. I'm a ballet prodigy, accomplished artist that's sold many works for a total well over $20,000.00, have a 4.0 GPA, have been accepted early into Stanford. Her kid? Failing the 3rd grade. Justice is SWEET. I loveeeee what Karma gave to that fucking bitch. She deserves it more than anyone. Sorry, wake up call time everybody. NO ONE CARES ABOUT YOUR SUPERFICIAL ISSUES. You don't want stepkids? Don't marry their parents DUMBASSES. They will ALWAYS come before you because they're ACTUAL FLESH AND BLOOD. You? You're nothing but a partner. That's replaceable. Do whatever you want with this post. I'm happy. Justice will be served to all you bitches too. For all the kind stepparents, keep doing what you're doing. Promise. It's EXTREMELY APPRECIATED BY ALL ABUSED STEPCHILDREN OUT THERE.