Just curious about all of those who have already established what happens Christmas when you have both bio and stepkids.

Dh and are are having to decide how it will be for the first time this Christmas because this is the first Christmas for BD. (Although I have been attempting to discuss it with DH since SD's first Christmas four years ago, but of course, he put it off saying we could figure it out later. It's later now!)

I have always had the opinion that Santa should only leave present's for SD at the house she sleeps at x-mas eve. Reason being, BD will most likely only get Santa gifts at our house and how will she feel when she is old enough to see that SD gets twice as much from Santa if he visits both of Sd's houses every year.

I'm ready, hit me with some opinions here?

The trouble I have is that BM will most likely refuse to pass on Santa gifts when SD is with us x-mas eve, so will it be ruining Santa for SD if she gets double Santa on the years she is with us, but Santa only leaves stocking gifts the years she is with BM?

DH and I discussed it some last night and as a lot of you have experienced, I addressed Dh's tendancy to view SD as less fortunate than BD because SD has to live in two homes. my response, "Oh please! that attitude is going to turn her into a monster!" and then to his comment, "BD has the gift of getting to have both her parents all the time." Me: "Yeah, wrap that up and put it under the tree for her for Christmas! She is years away from seeing that as a gift."

I told Dh that BD will have to accept that SD gets more than she does for Christmas because SD has two families. But how will we explain why Santa plays favorites?

Thanks for taking the time, I know BD is too young to know the diffence right now, but I know however we decide to handle it this year is how it will always be.

Sure not looking forward to missing SD Christmas morning.