First & foremost, it was NOT a very fun weekend. It started with my husband, his father & stepmother, and I going to pick-up SD9. (Remember, this is after BM has had SD9 for an entire month!) We met at the place BM requested, which was right across from her boyfriend's place. (I wanted to kick my husband for agreeing to this, but oh well.) So we get there & park. I see BM's car coming within 5 minutes. One thing though...she was coming from the opposite direction that she should have come from. So I'm still trying to process this...BM supposedly gets out of work at 5:00, she has to go to the school to pick-up SD9 from the after-school program & then meet us at 5:30. If this is what she had done, she would have barely made it at 5:30 & would have come from the opposite direction. Instead, she's 10 minutes early & coming from the direction we came from (meaning maybe we could have met somewhere closer to us). Hmmm...I'm still not convinced that BM is working full-time. She takes a lot of time off & she's only been there a year. My mom & I soooo want to play spies & do a stakeout to find out for sure! We would LOVE to catch BM in more lies.

So BM pulls up next to us & SD9 gets out. BM does not get out of the car to do her usual hugs & kisses, "I love you" (puke, puke, barf, barf!) routine because of my husband's parents being in the car. My husband & his stepmom get out of the car, my husband hugs SD9. SD9 gets in the car & sits between me & my husband's stepmom. His stepmom tries twice to hug SD9, but SD9 resists it both times. Eventually, SD9 turns to me & says "Hi!" in the annoying tone she knows I can't stand, making a stupid face just like former SD11 used to do when she wasn't talking to me anymore. SD9 did not say much more to me for the rest of the evening, despite the fact that I tried to talk with her.

We went out to dinner at a family-type restaurant. SD9 constantly interrupted when my husband was talking to one of us; and she only spoke to him. It was like the rest of us were invisible. She then hit my husband in the head repeatedly with a balloon. I would have yelled at her, but I figured my husband has got to stop ignoring her behavior. Eventually, he got tired of it & yelled at her. (Though it didn't stop her from doing it again later.) SD9 then drank her entire drink before dinner even started & expected us to order her more soda (nope, now it's time for WATER!). She also asked for a second slice of bread & my husband told her no because it would ruin her appetite. So what does she do? Reaches across the table in front of him & grabs the last slice of bread & eats it. My husband says NOTHING. I wanted to smack her & kick him!

Then at dinner, SD9 is like half-way through her food & announces that she's going to have dessert. We all told her no because none of us had room for dessert at this point. She then ate a few more bites & was "full". It was spaghetti with a giant meatball & she didn't even eat the meatball. What a waste. Then when the waitress came by & mentioned that SD9's dinner came with a dessert & my husband told her that we weren't having dessert, SD9 had the nerve to ask the waitress for a 2nd toy from the toy box! Thankfully the waitress told her no because that was just rude!

I just wanted to say that SD9 is usually pretty good. She can be a little rude at times & lacking in manners, but her behavior this night was atrocious. She acted like a spoiled, entitled little brat. And the fact that she basically ignored me & her grandparents definitely says that BM has been working on PAS'ing her. This is EXACTLY how former SD11 acted last year. Not good.

After dinner, my husband's parents went to their motor home & we went to our house. SD9 went to her room to check out the satellite (We finally have TV after 3 years...this was my "splurge" since we never do anything fun! And we were running out of things to watch on Netflix!) & I didn't see her the rest of the night. I think I took a nap on the couch, I don't even remember. I do remember, however, making the idiotic move of mentioning how SD9 came dressed from BM's...shorts that were falling off of her that showed her butt crack, shirt was too tight, too short & stained, disgusting crocs...and she wore this to school?! Plus, it was chilly & this was not appropriate for colder weather. (At least she wore a jacket FINALLY!)

This then opened the floodgates & started a fight between me & my husband. He sees the things that are happening & knows that this is wrong, however, he just keeps ignoring it, more than likely because he doesn't know what to do. And I'm a fighter. I see what BM is doing & I want to stand up to her, but I don't because it only causes more problems. So we disagree on how to handle this nightmare. We go to court in a few weeks, so hopefully everything will be figured out soon.

If you made it this far, stay tuned for my next blog on the rest of the weekend with SD9...it gets worse...