So court yesterday was mostly a waste of time. Though it was good for a few laughs.

Apparently, since our case began earlier this year, they have rotated out judges & now there's a new one handling our case. So yesterday's hearing was just to bring the new judge up to speed on the situation. Nothing has been decided, so for the time being things stay the same until we get another court date, which the judge warned us would probably be months from now because they are extremely backed up. The judge really wants them to settle this outside of court, but I don't see this happening. My poor husband has tried everything to deal with BM & BM will not budge on what she wants -- full custody of SD9. And since my husband will not just hand that over now after all we've been through, it looks like there will be a nasty custody battle in our future. Oh joy, just what I need being pregnant & all!

But I've changed my mind on this situation. In several of my last blogs, I said that I was done with this & didn't care what happened. Well, after seeing BM yesterday & listening to her lies, I've been reminded that it is not in SD9's best interest to live full-time with BM. So if we have the chance to fight for custody, we absolutely have to. Obviously there's the chance that BM will win anyway, but at least we will have tried. And as a bonus, we'll get to FINALLY have people hear our side of the story....and that includes BM. Even if everyone else thinks we're lying, BM will KNOW that what we're saying is the truth. She can deny it all she wants, but she'll have to listen to us talk about all her wrong doings, neglect, arrogance, etc. And she will be PISSED just like every time someone questions her. Even if we lose, it'll be worth it just for that.

So here's a run-down of yesterday's events at court:

Two of my brothers came for support. And my father stopped by, but couldn't stay. BM was alone.

BM ate an apple casually just before we had our hearing. I don't know...this just seems odd...was she trying to prove that she was confident?

BM wore a frumpy flowery dress via the 80's that obviously came from a thrift shop. She wore high heels, which looked really out of place with that dress. I noticed that her accessories, however, looked expensive. She carried a really nice, designer-looking totebag (BM does not use purses) & was wearing pricey-looking amber earrings. I'm sure these were gifts from her rich boyfriend; too bad he couldn't have also bought her a modern dress! Oh, and BM was once again wearing glasses -- when she doesn't need them (she wears them because she thinks they make her look smart). This was obviously her outfit for trying to impress the judge.

In the short time BM had to speak, she spewed several lies. When the judge asked how far the drive was from our house to SD9's new school & my husband stated 45 minutes, BM objected & said that she had driven it & it was only 25 minutes. My mouth dropped open! (This is not physically possible.) The judge looked amused & asked BM if she drove a Ferrari. BM then went on to say that Google maps said it was only a 31 minute drive. Um, maybe from the school to our actual town, but definitely not to our house. Our house is about 15 minutes from town AND our road, which is private, does not even show up on Google maps.

BM also quoted incorrect dates & facts. Of course, since this wasn't an actual trial, my husband couldn't dispute every little thing. When we do go back to court, correct dates & facts will be important, and BM had better be prepared! This is where my attention to detail comes into play. BM has made fun of me for being like this, well, guess what...some of these small, "unimportant" details will matter! Unless BM gets her shit together, I can completely see her little world of lies crumbling...FINALLY.

BM had several long pauses before answering important questions from the judge. BM usually does long pauses for dramatic effect, but in court when you have long pauses it make it look like you're lying or afraid to answer the question. I'm sure the judge noticed this.

BM acted extremely smug during court. At the end, the judge was explaining how the court process would go from here & he was mostly addressing my husband because the ball is in his court. (BM moved & now wants full custody, so he will need to present his case on why this shouldn't happen.) BM apparently thought this was a victory of some sort. She sat back & had a smug smirk on her face. She probably assumes we don't want to go through the whole court process & will just give up custody. Nope! It's so on now...

So I'm announcing that I'm officially back in the BM battle now. I've always known that SD9 was better off with us anyway. I just wanted to make sure my husband was willing to stand up & fight. And he is. And I'll support him fully & remind him not to give in on ANYTHING. I'll toughen him up! I feel so much better now that I've decided this. It's like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I realize it'll be a long, rough road ahead, but that poor kid is worth it. I may not have been impressed by her recent behavior, but it really is all BM PASing her. I've always known that.