He's out!
I haven't been on St in so long but I just want to update that we finally got SS20 out of the house despite covid. He is furloughed but still got accepted for a 1 bed apartment in town.
Im so happy. I never thought we would manage it. His behaviour was really bad and I told DH that I was close to losing it if he didn't go. DH helped him move out ofc, DH did NOT help financially, wasn't needed as SS has 20k savings already. He dresses like a pauper, never bought himself new clothes and only had one pair of shoes *bad*. Despite being in full time work he still expected his father to provide. Wouldn't even buy an aspirin for himself but used up all ours. But, would spend 250 dollars on candy, chocolate and sodas in 14 days.
He continued to lie, steal, shout and be aggressive and him moving out couldn't have come a day too soon. We know he will struggle to control his non essential spending urges and his dodgy internet porn use. We are sure he will get Into trouble but... Its not our problem. Now that he's out he is staying out and I will never live under the same roof again. He can go to BM if he gets evicted. Let him finally be her problem. He has no way back in here.
I hope this shows that there is light at the end of the tunnel after all.
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YAY!!!!
YAY!!!!
Congratulations on having your home back and having a husband who stood his gound (even if it did take longer than it should)!!
CONGRATULATIONS!!
Very difficult emotionally for all with adult SKs living at home, esoecially when they are dysfunctional people. I heartily congratulate you!!
YAY!
Doesnt it feel sooooooooooo fabulous? Yes. Take a breath and sit back and figure out what you will do with the space vacated by the Spawn-leech.
When SD21 Feral Forger was living us, we didnt have to move her out. She got a job a few towns over, and moved in with a friend. But didnt tell us. I now know thats her thing - to move out and not say anything, leaving a room full of junk in case she wants/has to move back at a later date. She moved without taking her stuff, apparently simply buying more stuff, because, job.
This was over 3 years ago in January, that I cleared out ALL furniture including bed. Cleared out the trash and junk, and boxed what looked important. Donated EVERYTHING possible. Installed a fish tank, my own lovely furniture, hung a cute missor, installed some plants and candles and decor. Made it a pretty dressing room, with a beautiful writing desk. I watch sunsets there now. Installed mirrored closet doors (beveled), am going to hang some crystal hanging lights.
So, enjoy! Take up his old space asap, so he cannot move back (sorry! space taken!!!)
Thanks all. I have already
Thanks all. I have already begun on redecorating in that room. Stripped all the old wallpaper etc, bought new paper and paint. We will replace the ceiling and flooring too. No stink from him will be left in that room. It will be a 2nd spare room/ study for DH. I already have a sewing/hobby room upstairs.
It's just lovely having it to just DH and I. And for me it's the first time without kids in 37 years.
YAY!
Well thank goodness. Fill that room asap. He will be asking to come back sometime.
So happy for you!
So happy for you!