BM coming for a visit tomorrow
Well folks, it's finally happened. BM has decided to come visit SD9 for the first time in a year and a half. SD and BM have had phone contact during that time, but FDH and I have had 100% custody, and thank God for grandparents to help out on weekends from time to time. SD and I have a great relationship. We're actually about to go out to eat dinner together, just a girls' night.
We explained to SD that her mom is coming to visit her and that SD will not be left alone with BM under any circumstances. Either FDH, me, or both of us will be present with SD and BM at ALL times. Tomorrow we're set for BM to show up around dinner time, eat dinner, chat, etc. FDH and I may go in a separate room so that SD and BM can have some sort of privacy for a bit. Things have to be this way b/c BM has taken SD in the past with no notice, had SD living off stranger's couches, not in school, put in violent situations. BM currently has no parental rights. None.
SD said that she is both nervous and excited to see her mom. We'll take baby steps and see where this takes us. FDH and I want to foster a relationship between SD and BM, but a positive one where we know SD is safe. BM is supposed to be in town through Saturday. I'll update with any interesting news.
Wish us luck!
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I think what you have come up
I think what you have come up with is perfect! Good luck, and I'm happy to hear you have a good relationship with SD! Lucky you!
Think she will show or flake
Think she will show or flake ?
Well, I'll fully believe it
Well, I'll fully believe it when I see it, but I do think she'll show. I hope so. SD is in the shower now singing that "Tomorrow" song from Annie.
Ugh. I cannot even imagine
Ugh. I cannot even imagine hearing Annie songs in the shower when her BM deserted her! You are a much more forgiving mom than I am. I would not let a person who has been granted zero parental rights step in to create waves. It's too much drama to calm down and explain, not to mention the therapy sessions. Good luck!
Just prepare her that
Just prepare her that sometimes things come up and people can't come before she cancels. Made me cry when you said she was singing that song. Just protect her. I know you will.
I talked to BM about an hour
I talked to BM about an hour and a half ago and she was a little over an hour away. She said that she was going to go check into her hotel room and then call us. SD bought a box of ice cream with her own money so that she can share it with everyone. She really is a sweet kid. I'll admit that I'm a bit passive-aggressive b/c I left all the art that SD9 made me on the fridge. One is the "Stepmom of the Year Award" and another is a picture of SD, me, and our cat that SD drew, along with words about how awesome of a mom I am to her, lol.