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Submitted by StarStuff on Thu, 04/26/2012 - 8:19am

So I was commenting on someone else's post and it got me to thinking about something that crossed my mind the other day.

When I was a teen (and to this day) I took/take my birth control pills religiously. I did this b/c I didn't want to be a teen mom and am still not ready for my own children. There are things that I want to accomplish first. Even though I have SD I still get a free pass from FDH to go do my own thing because he realizes SD is primarily his repsonsibility.

My SD is 8, so when she was born I was a few months past 17. All the work I did avoiding teen pregnancy still ended up with the same end result. However, and this makes me feel better, having all those extra child-free years were awesome. I was able to study abroad and travel to multiple continents, I completed by B.A. moved to a different state and became independent. All things that BM will even now never be able to accomplish.

It's just weird to me that all those years I was child-free, there was already a kid out there that was going to come to depend on me. As I've mentioned before, BM is nowhere to be found. She'll call every couple of months if it suits her.

Life sure does have a sense of humor!

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Submitted by majka on Thu, 04/26/2012 - 8:55am

It sure does doesn't it? We have the same exact story, only I have TWO skids (SD6, SS5)that depend on me, full time, every day because their mother is now living across the country having the time of her life. Ironic.

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Submitted by PeanutandSons on Thu, 04/26/2012 - 9:04am

Same here. Did everything right, and had the same end result as if I had parties it up. Two skids old enough that if the were mine I would have had them as a teenager.

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Submitted by StarStuff on Thu, 04/26/2012 - 10:00am

Thank you. And I honestly hope that for all our skids/bios as well. Last thing I want is to be an early grandma and see another kid become a parent!

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Submitted by StarStuff on Thu, 04/26/2012 - 10:10am

I hear ya....I've been following your posts. I'm a bit different in that I do want my own kids one day. But today, and last year, and next year, are not that day.