Jealousy
:? My best friend has bonded with my boyfriends kids, in a way that I feel like I haven't. They hug her and text her all the time. The kids are 13( girl) and 15 (boy). I'm trying not to be upset, but it's hard to not feel jealous. Background, we have been together for almost two years. And have lived together for almost one year. Their mom moved out of state and they haven't had much contact with her since. I don't know what to do. Am I being selfish?
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I just wish I had some of
I just wish I had some of that love. I feel like I'm all alone
Teens are tough. Your friend
Teens are tough. Your friend is probably just a safe person that is nice who is not trying to compete with them for DH's attention. Win for them. Not nice on your friend's part towards you IMO. She is interfering or interjecting herself into a kinda fragile family-ish structure.
Not trying to dog your
Not trying to dog your friend, just tossing it out there.
My friend IRL complains that her boys think I'm the "cool" mom and they will do things for/with me and my BS-13 that they would never consider with her. I am aware and sensitive to this since she has expressed some of those same jealous or envious feelings. I remind her that I do not make them pick up their bedrooms or do their laundry or their homework or clean dog-poop up or a million other things.
I'm like an 'Auntie' style of character. We have fun together. I coach a mutual sports team (albeit poorly). I suggest sledding and bike riding adventures, or treks to dollar movies, etc. Mainly it's to get my own kidlet out and about, but I understand how it can look to someone else. (Especially since my friend has health issues which keep her less active.)
Telling you this so that you'll know you're not alone.
Yes to what everyone else has
Yes to what everyone else has said - its safe to love on her she is no threat.
Is the friend also a friend of your BF (was there an existing relationship between her and the skids)?
I would just let it go, don't let it bother you. Its normal and yes, I had that too - where the little bastards would be all over anyone else who wasn't ME!! Chatty, and loving and just eager to please, I think in part it was a "fuck you" from them to me as well.
I think that's quite normal;
I think that's quite normal; she is "a friend" and you are "a parent".
It's nice to know I'm not
It's nice to know I'm not alone. She knew him before I
Met him, but they were not friends. She is
Also going through a divorce and has a six year old who always hangs out with the kids. I feel like they listen to her, when she talks, and that I'm just white noise most of the time: their father however does not think its a big deal. Which is hard to talk to him about it