SS13 doesn't want to go
And I know that hearing him say it I like music to my DH's ears.
(background: bm left dh and SS when SS was 5 after several years of cheating. Bm showed back up after 7 years when she saw I was around to stay. Se now has EOWe visitation and eo holiday.)
This is ss's first thanksgiving with his mother since he was very small. Dh and I only have our baby this year a we set my three off to their fathers' earlier this afternoon. We did a special dinner with all the kids to do something special.
SS will be spending thanksgiving at BM's girlfriend's house where her GF's parents will cook. he will miss his family and his family' cooking and he's been hinting around about all the things he'll miss.
When we told him it was time to go, he told dh he didn't really want to. Before dh could make an insensitive comment (my dh is very childish when it comes to bm and extremely resentful that she can jjust show up after many absent years and take up like nothing happened) I said, "we wish you weren't going too - we wish all of you were staying- but you're going to have a nice time with your mom"
I know dh was beaming inside. It hurts him very much to lose his son on the holidays especially after so many years alone where he was struggling.
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That's a really good point.
That's a really good point. It is their relationship.
I certainly struggle with allowing dh to operate on his own as a father to SS. I know that with our DD, I won't allow him to behave in the same way he does with ss13. He has much more of a pier relationship with SS that I am "helping" him undo. There are some things though, that I should just allow to be, but boy what a challenge. Good advice though.
That is very nice of you. I
That is very nice of you. I think in time, if he still does not want to go...he is old enough to speak for himself. The court may think different. I can understand why your DH is bitter.
Even though I have strong
Even though I have strong negative feelings towards bm, I do try to remind dh that bm is ss's mother and when he puts her down, it hurts SS. -not saying I'm perfect because every now and then negativity leaks from my lips as well