SS13 Returns from a Crummy Easter with BM and we don't even get a "thank you"
So SS13 had his first Easter with mom in about 8 years. My three kids were home with DH and I for the entire weekend. We had SS13's bday party on Sat morning with his friends at the bowling alley and came home to regroup before taking him to our half way meeting point at 5.
I ALWAYS do Easter baskets for my kids and an egg hunt. The kids look forward to finding the "BIG EGG" and start talking about it a few days before Easter as we pull out all the eggs and start to get ready for it.
Anyway, in addition to our Easter traditions, we also ended up going to one of SS's favorite restaraunts by his mother's house on Sat night because we ran an errand out that way and ended up starving. This was a place that DH always wanted to take me to, but we just aren't out that way very often.
Sunday, in addition to our family activities, we also went out and met my extended family at Dave and Buster's - basically a big restaraunt with tons of adult-ish video games, pool, schuffle board, etc. It was the first time for my kids and they all LOVED it. DS10 even said it was the best day of his life (but he's a video game kind of guy).
Anyway, we had a great time. SS knew what we were going to be doing and didn't seem like he was looking forward to going to his mom's. But he let us know about the "plans" they had and seemed to make the best of it.
So when we pick SS13 up, he tells us that all they did was watch TV and stay in the house. He had some goodies he brought home, but he wasn't all happy and proud like he usually is when he's done with his visit and has a bunch of crap that she's sent him home with.
We didn't tell him about what we did, but through the night different things came up about our days.
We give SS his basket and not even a thank you. I'm glad I didn't put a $20 in there like I did for the other kids...
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That's what makes being a
That's what makes being a stepparent so draining. No thanks or appreciation. If you had made a basket for any other kid that wasn't yours, you'd have been thanked. Either by the child or their parents. But not with a step....its just expected.
Took all the kids to an Easter this g on Saturday....egg hunt, crafts, food. Bs3 thanked me for taking him and told me what a good time he had...big hug. Neither skid said anything.
Just makes you feel used...
yes. Exactly. My BD12 thanked
yes. Exactly. My BD12 thanked me for doing the egg hunt for them - even though I asked my three kids to help stuff the eggs with candy. She still made a special point to say "thanks."
My kids are with me about 60% of the time and SS is here ALL the time except for his EOWE with his mom. I'm really getting tired of this kid.
I've actually pulled back quite a bit on the things I do in the mornings for the kids when my kids aren't here. I have him make his own sandwich for lunch and put the butter on his own bagel (I know, big deal... but I would get so POed while he would just sit there and ask to watch tv while I ran around making breakfast for him and his lunch and he'd never say thanks for anything).
Did DH tell him to say thank
Did DH tell him to say thank you?
I didn't bother telling DH
I didn't bother telling DH that he didn't say anything about it. Sometimes I feel like a nag, always alerting DH to what an ingrate SS is.
I was tired. Really tired, so just rolled my eyes in my own little head and went back to what I was doing.
Luckily, DH has been pretty on it lately in regards to expectations and not giving in to SS. So I just gave this one a pass.
And honestly, I did feel kind
And honestly, I did feel kind of sorry for the kid since he sat in the house and watched TV all weekend long with his mom. He didn't really want to go to his mom's because he was missing out on all the fun, but ...oh well.
See - even I go back and forth with feeling sorry for the kid and being irritated with him for being so ungrateful.