update on ~ mooch ~
DH finally put pressure on SS to start helping out with second house mortgage. House we do not live in but 20 yr old SS lives there for free. Just a little history to catch you up.... We decided to give SS a few months after graduating from HS and subsequently graduating from a summer technical program, to save up for a vehicle or buy any toys he may have been wanting etc. enjoy his first few paychecks so to speak.. BAD IDEA! here we are a two years later. The SS decided he is going to move in with grandparents so he can continue to live rent free and allow us to rent the entire house. How noble of him!
We could have done this 2 years ago!
Even though this is probably the best decision for everyone, financially, it may not be for us at this time since in order to rent the house there are repairs that need to be made that will cost money including replacing the carpet.
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Wow...
I would be so ticked. Grandparents are ok with the proposal? We have that kind of problem with SKIDS running to GM for money, phones, laptops, etc. after being told they have to earn their own. It sounds like you guys could use the help and DH was trying to give him a nudge to be more responsible...parenting. It must be frustrating if grandparents are giving SS and easy out, yeah?
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SS is not broke. He makes good cash about 19/hr for a 20 yr old with lots of OT that is a lot of money not to be able to pay 200-300 a month which is what we were suggesting. I honestly think old granma is behind this.
My DH has a medical condition that has worsened recently and was advised to cut back work hours or change jobs, which he did. He took a big pay cut but he is doing better, we cannot afford 2 mortgages and I had already taken a second parttime job to help out. this SS has absolutely no shame.
They blame me for everything, they probably think this was all my idea to charge him rent. When my BD work (she is college now) she has to contribute to her phone bill, car insurance etc. it is a way to teach them responsibility. She has been doind that since she was 16. SMH
It's quite possible GPs will
It's quite possible GPs will grown sick of SS's shit before long too, and kick his arse to the curb. Cross your fingers.
not really
the MIL (GM) is a total enabler. She paid for the OSD's phone bill after she got married. I think MIL is still paying for YSD and SS's phone bills and many other things.... I wouldnt put it past her that this is all MIl's idea "how dare DH charge his son for rent?!!"
I can just hear her voice.. but it is ok... if we have to sell, we will not hesitate.
My DH and I went through an
My DH and I went through an awful mess when we allowed an adult relative to live in our vacation home as part of a plan to help her get back on her feet and buy the home. She is/was a sloth, chose to live in filth, and then decided she didn't want the house after all.
I'm sorry your H's spineless parenting has led to this. Hopefully you'll draw a hard boundary now that no adult friends or family will ever be allowed to live in any of your properties ever again. Choose your words carefully, and strike while the iron is hot.
kinda staying out of it...
kinda staying it out of for now..... but yes, the house was dirty, grass always needed to be mowed and not to mention the time I had to use his bathroom/restroom the shower was moldy and a dirty pair of his girlfriend panties on the floor! I am ready to sell the property. that is!
See if you can get a Realtor
See if you can get a Realtor to estimate how much you can get for the property As Is, and how much fixed up. Cheaper than an appraisal. Get it in writing, and innocently show it to your H when the time is right to discuss what he wants to do with it.
Not sure where you live, but you might want to sell now in Summer rather than pay more property taxes.