LOL, i'm happy my evil step-mom humor is appreciated somewhere! I read all the posts and I have to agree that I think a lot of the ex's are ugly to us because of who they are. My BM is hideous, but she has become a lot uglier to me since I have seen her true colors. When I knew her before I got together with my husband, I thought she was really bland, fat and boring looking. She was really overweight, with long, thin dishwater blonde hair that she wore parted in the middle and either just hanging down all scraggly or in a braid (prairie girl style=revolting on a thirty-something woman). She later cut it in a style that matches mine (creeeeeepy!) and it looks worse now. My dad said that it looks like she got in a fight with a lawnmower and the lawnmower won. Back then, she was just the kind of person that you don't really notice, except that her eyes bulge out. Her gross features didn't really bother me (do I let random ugly people bother me?) then, but now I find her totally repulsive. She has a fat, round face with a double chin. Bulging eyes and a blonde mustache. She wears frumpy, horrifying clothes and has huge saggy boobs and giant rolls of fat around her middle and a huuuuuuge ass. My H said that she was more attractive when he met her (that's what they all say!), but I saw the pictures and she just had a smaller double chin and looked younger. She did blimp out after the first kid and never lost the weight. Just to clarify, I have no problems whatsoever with overweight people, it just annoys me on her because she is revolting and yet still thinks that she is all that, or at least acts like she is. She purses her lips into an angry frown constantly and walks in this weird stomping way where she hunches her shoulders and slams her feet forward. It's hard to describe, but makes things shake that shouldn't be shaken. She is totally oblivious about her body and crashes into things constantly and makes messes everywhere she goes. Her house is filthy and she spills food on her clothes and doesn't even notice! She has always been really insecure about me because I am thin and far prettier (not being conceited, my toilet is prettier than her), but the one thing she just doesn't get is that my guy is with me because of who I am, not what I look like. Of course, he is attracted to me, but he would have run off with the first pretty girl he saw long before he met me if he was shallow like that. He became repulsed by her right about when she got pregnant the first time, but felt so guilty about it that he blocked his disgust and only really acknowledged it later. She made no effort to take care of herself over the years they were together and i've seen the pictures to prove it! She has no clue how to apply make-up or how to find clothes that are flattering. She obviously eats like a pig and wouldn't know a treadmill if it chased her down the street. I could really go on and on. One thing that's great is that my husband is just as repulsed by her as I am and is embarrassed and ashamed that he was with her. He stayed with her because of the kids and he knows that people judge him for having been with her, but he and I know why he was so it's okay. The funny part is people's reactions when she is pointed out. I have pointed her out a few times (subtly) and everyone is always shocked and grossed out that he ever had anything to do with her. Luckily, I am the complete opposite of her, in every way, and he actually married me and never married her, despite her best efforts to trap him. Anyway, my point here is that I do think BM's tend to be ugly, but I think it has a lot to do with the fact that they are bitter, hateful shrews who can't let go of their ex's. They are angry and jealous of us, the smoms, and know that we were picked over them. It's pretty blatant. They know that a man rejected them in favor of another woman and they just can't take it. This causes them to become bitter and nasty and vengeful instead of moving on and continuing their lives or (heaven forbid!) focusing on being good mothers!