Okay, so her name isn't really Ursula, but she bears a striking resemblance to a certain character in my favorite Disney movie...Anyway, I thought that she could sink no lower, but I was wrong and the BM is at it again. Neither I or H have given her any reason to be a witch with a capital B lately, (like she needs a reason) but I guess she doesn't need a reason to act crazy and evil...

It has been peaceful on the home front recently and I was lulled into a sense of false security and felt like the worst of my problems was working on disengaging from skids stress and not getting worked up over BM's inappropriate comments. Well, it seems that her incessant thirst for pain and drama has struck again because the BM has decided to drag up an old conflict I had with her months ago (see my other blogs if you are bored and want to read my rant) and instead of dealing with me directly, she has randomly and out of the blue, decided to attempt to re-open the custody case. This particular conflict involved her insulting me and me responding and telling her that I would appreciate it if she would stop making comments about our life. I was totally honest with her and offended her because she can give it, but can't take it back (and unlike her, I don't spew random curse words and throw around tired cliches such as "slutty home-wrecker" and "dirty-clawed whore"-i'm totally serious, she actually uses phrases like this to my face). I save my venting for my H, my family, my journal and, recently, this site, and make a huge effort to stick to expressing my feelings honestly to her, rather than attacking her with meaningless insults.

So, anyway instead of dealing with me directly and having the courage to try to work things out with me, she has stated her intent to re-open the custody case (which finally was resolved three months ago). Her lawyer has been unable to give a clear answer to what this is actually about other than that she is "offended" by me and thinks that if I am a bitch to her, than my H should have his custody reduced?!!!!????!!!! This is brilliant logic folks, so try to follow along. In her crazy little world, when someone makes you mad by telling the truth and sharing their honest opinion, it is a good idea to wait for three or four months and then randomly try to use that as an excuse to sue for more custody (At least that is what we're assuming she wants, her lawyer "wasn't sure"). My H's lawyer is 99.9% sure that this will be thrown out of court if she actually tries to go through with this, but this is the last thing that any of us need. She is actually willing to waste time and money on something this stupid and for no real reason and no apparent goal, other than causing trouble. My H said she reminds him of a wounded dog in the corner, who has lost a fight and can't think of anything else to to other than to randomly bite people. It makes me sick that she is willing to use her children and almost certainly cause them unneeded stress just because she is mad at ME because I called her on her inappropriate behavior and my H backed me up. Until now, she has focused all her rage on me, but it seems like her denial is wearing thin and she is finally acknowledging her anger towards my H. She hasn't been getting any attention from either of us. In my efforts to disengage and move on, I have been ignoring her completely and not even looking up when she stands in our front doorway and says passive aggressive and nasty things (her most recent crazy comment was that she said that she saw a flea on our inside doormat (I have an OCD style obsession with keeping our house spotless, unlike the pigsty she lives in). In my head, I retorted that it must have jumped off her, not enjoying the flavor of possessed cow, but in real life I just ignored her and continued to read my book on the couch.

Her nasty comments have increased dramatically lately, and I have no idea why they get worse when we ignore them. She has upped her phone calls to the point where H flinches when the phone rings and she has been calling with "problems" a lot lately. For example, she called us at 9:30pm to ask H if he had noticed if SS10 had eaten the crusts of his P&B sandwich, because she wanted to know if she should cut the crusts off for tomorrow's lunch!!!!!????!!!. H said that he didn't know and that it was too late to call and that she should avoid calling unless it was serious (whoohooo! Go H!) and she got all bitchy and said that he didn't care about his son's dietary needs (?????) The next day she called him five times, two of which were calls to offer to get him (MY husband) some Dayquil because she had noticed he had a cold. (WTF????!!!!). Today, she asked him if he had seen a doctor, implying that there is no one to look out for him or take care of him when he's sick (Hello? Am I chopped liver? I'm the one who cleans up his puke when he has the flu and babies him when he's feeling all sick and mopey) and he came very close to telling her to mind her own business and that they aren't friends and that she can't pull custody crap on him and then act like they are bestest friends. (Also, she only does the buddy-buddy stuff, when she thinks i'm not there or can't see me-like when i'm within hearing range, but she can't see me). I have been very upset lately about boundary setting with her because I was afraid of this very thing and now my H is getting as upset as I was and really understands where I was coming from.

Anyway, she agreed to meet with him and discuss it ( we think her whole goal was to get attention from him and have a chance to rant about me to him-something that he will not allow and will walk away from if she tries it). I felt really, really upset at first because I felt like the situation was my fault, but H told me that he doesn't see it that way and thinks she would come up with some excuse or another to cause trouble or make something up . The whole reason behind her BS is so ridiculously flimsy that it's hard to believe she is actually serious. I am completely and utterly disgusted and contemptuous of her for this because taking things to a legal level is not a light thing to do and is actually very serious. She had this approach with the custody suit as well and even though she initiated it and was totally vicious about it, after it was settled and signed, she mentioned to H that she felt that it was a "general guideline" for them and that they didn't have to stick to it. Hello Crazy, when you sign a legal document that you have spent thousands of dollars on, it is not a "general guideline," it is a legal and binding document. She tries to veer off of the plan all the time and gets pissed when H insists on following it to the letter of the law. When she gets bitchy about it (usually because she wants to veer off of it for her own convenience) he points out that SHE wanted to take things legal, not him and that he is going to follow it regardless of how seriously she takes it (although oddly, she takes getting her fat check from my H every month pretty seriously).

I am so sick of all of this and wonder if there will ever be an end to her petty bitchiness? She's too much of a coward to take me on directly and would actually prefer to drag her kids through the mud just to cause grief and stress for H and I. AND there is nothing she can get out of this. There is no way she will get a positive outcome and we're not even sure what she is going for, other than wasting everyone's time and money. I seriously would not be at all surprised if she said that she would drop everything if he divorced me. She is that irrational and crazy.

Anyway, grrrr. Feeling very angry and upset. H is pissed too, but although this is causing unnecessary stress we are in a really good position to deal with this because anything she could possibly accuse us of, she has done something much worse and I have documented absolutely everything and have a fat file full of stuff on her.

Well, anyway, thanks for reading my rant. H's snoring is making me sleepy and my anger is fading now that I have vented it all out. }:)