This blog was posted elsewhere, but since it has to do w/ the BM, I am reposting it here. The original date is 6/7/08

I am so pissed off at the moment I could just spit. I want to scream, rant, yell, curse, cry...just so many damn emotions right now I am getting confused.

I suspected that my SS's BM told him he doesn't need to listen to me when he's visiting his father every other weekend. The boy, being 6 years old for the last couple times he's visited us at DH asked him and he said, "Yes, mommy told me I don't have to listen to SM."

I am beside myself, bummed out that this woman would sabotage and stoop this low. I've been staying out of her way, but apparently that's not enough. She doesn't like the fact that my husband has gotten wise to her ways and she can't manipulate him anymore. Instead of saying "YES" to her every whim, he tells her he'll get back to her. Being that he and I are MARRIED, not shacking up, he wants to discuss things with me first. She doesn't like that idea. She insists I'm in control.

She told my husband he needs to "step up and be a dad" to Ched. She didn't like the fact that one day when EJ was supposed to pick up their son from school since it was a half day, he had to rearrange things, and send the boy to daycare, since my daughter, who lives here, was puking her guts out. He didn't want to expose his son, who is prone to getting sick, to the flu she had.

He arranged, on his own, to call the daycare and get him in there, then told the mother about it and letting her know she'd have to go pick him up after she was finished with work. He didn't demand 1/2 the price of the day's fee.

Her reply to this change of events, "Well...if I *HAVE* to." Later on she informed him that He should have taken his son to a hotel for the night. EXCUSE ME? Seriously, that's what she suggested. He doesn't want his son exposed to germs, and she comes up with this lame idea.

She also told him he needs to come over more often and spend time with his son, take him out to dinner, help him with his homework...okay, that's all well and good, in theory...but hubby doesn't get off work until at least 5:30...has to drive almost 10 miles to her house, spend money to take him out for food, or take him to the library, because she wouldn't DARE let EJ into the house to help his son with homework. Then drive 20 miles home, eat dinner, do homework, and then get to bed.

Meanwhile, she rarely lets my husband talk to his own child, and when he DOES get the chance, which is about every 4-5 days, it's limited and most likely monitored by her. She doesn't like that their son tells his father that he loves him and me on a continuous basis.

Okay, I feel better now writing all this out, but I'm always going to remember her petty attitude when it comes to these "rules" she decides to make up how Ched should act at MY house.