Thur we went to drop CS check and pick up kids, had to beg for them one day early even though they on summer vacation. BM doesn't want to sent the because they will be with me all day at home.

One our way there, BM texts to ask if we can pick them up somewhere else because they were out. DH said no and we waited til they arrived because we were early, and BM had to leave where they were and rush to be on time. Then in front of me in the car she started telling DH that "he needs to tell his wife not to take away her children's phone, that she pays for it". DH stood up for me, although I didn't realize what was going on and I didn't hear much but the end. Then she went up with the kids and texted that she will drop them on Fri because they are scared to come because she spoke up. Then she opened the window and started yelling about the kids and the phone and me, etc. and by that time my window was down and I yelled up at her, "Excuse me!" and she about lost her mind and started to tell me to stay out of her bussiness, she's not talking to me etc.

We left, we had a good night trying to ignore it all. She sent DH multitude of texts berating me and then an email addressed to me and then DH, berating me, telling me that I should not discipline her kids, they have a mother and don't need one, how her man does not get involved. The next part of the email to DH was all about how she's trying to be friends with him for the sake of the children, and I am getting in the way of that, and how she's sorry for coming off harsh but it's not him the children complain about and it's not him she has a problem with. And suddenly she's so kind as to drop them off AND pick them up too.

Neither I nor DH responded to this email. And at first I managed to ignore it all, but over the weekend it eventually got to me, and I wish DH had responded back making his position clear. But I guess his position isn't clear and he likes the way she is toward him now and perhaps he wants to be her friend. She made sure she texted him to wish him happy father's day. And when she came to pick up the kids, she dropped off their father's day card and some mail from the doctor's office. She had carried the kids to the doctor and she put down DH's name at her address, and DH thought absolutely nothing of it.

Well, I lost my mind. I felt that at the very least he could have joined with me in saying that that is unacceptable, but he didn't. We had a huge fight - on Father's Day, and he says he has never has a good father day since he married me because I awalys get upset at sthg his ex-wife does on that day... And he says he cant deal with me anymore.... and so, we're done. we'll probably get a divorce. right now I am calm because, i think I've accepted that it's over. I made a terrible decision in marrying him and now I have to pay the consequences... and perhaps there will be some peace in my life and I can focus on the things I want for me.

This, just after I gave him all my emergency money to help his parents who are struggling. So,I'm not sure what I should do now...